[INFJ] Sense of self and other people's assumptions?

Honestly, I think that most people's thoughts are dumb if they're not based on verifiable facts.

People can have whatever assumptions about me but I don't care because they're probably not worth pleasing in the first place.

I have things to get done, anyone who deters me is wasting my time.

 

I honestly don't think the average person doesn't pay any of us that much mind.

It's different when you're in a social situation where someone is sizing you up (i.e. a date or for a job interview), but most people are either off in their own world or worrying about what you think of them. Most of them, if you're anxious in social situations, you're the one making assumptions about what they're thinking of you and not what they're actually thinking of you.

I know its easier said than done, but relax. And if you're really having a hard time with it, pick out one thing you don't like about the person you're talking to and three things you do like. It'll give you back a little control while also helping you project that like onto them. People like people who like them.

Look for the positives in a social reaction as opposed to the negatives. It'll put *you* more at ease too.

It comes with practice. Go to network events and meet-ups and be as social as possible without thinking that much about yourself.