So last night I noticed something in my storm of commentaries, I saw the room (forum) literally go empty itself and at that moment I knew I went too far by forcing my own view fuelled by my own emotional state projecting to others. I became the internet bully. I want to explain a bit on the behaviour; the intention is never to harm, but always to touch on boundaries. It is invasive and it can hurt. But it’s with holding in mind that the person I direct my words to is able to handle this. And that can fail hard. That’s the danger of that approach. And when a person is hurt that’s something I have to take on me. However, what should be understood is that there are ground rules on the behaviour on this forum (officially or unofficially) to which it acts as a director in that regard. I talked with a member about this as well before, explaining that how I experience this forum as a setting with individuals while she, and I assume many INFJ’s do as well, experiences the forum as a platform for individuals to discuss topics and themselves together. Her point of view here is correct. This is primarily a place for INFJ’s and alike to vent out and have a sense of safety in this virtual space. Me pushing boundaries is against the essence of it. The point though is that it is difficult to sense an emotion in this forum or any online platform, you can only deduce an expression of emotions from what is given by the words typed by a member, how these are presented within a context and how your present image of that person / person’s situation is. Some people are more skilled in deducing these than others, like myself. When this shoots the wrong way, it is the fault of the person crossing these emotions, but it is also the responsibility of the person receiving it, as hard as it is, to push against it. Having said that, it is better to take on a safer route when someone is in an emotional vulnerable state. So, I’m absolutely at fault here for pushing limits where it isn’t necessary, being too insensitive towards the person I direct it to. And, I apologise as one of the jokers and promise (and am strongly emphasising on that) not to actively jump into the boundary-push mode again without having the proper consent of the person I jump into. You can always ask for an explanation on something I said / do on this forum, confront me on it. I don’t mind. I’m serious on that. I much rather have that directly than someone cropping up negative emotions because of something I said or did. Makes me feel like shit as well. Anyway, that's a perspective that I'm sharing here. Not part of the discussion. Glad this thread was started. Kudos.