From what I understand, they have a bunch of emotions reserved for a few specific people that are genuine emotions
If you are asking this because you have the "opportunity" to date a sociopath/psychopath... I say run, very fast and very far away. They are not necessarily bad people by default, but there are much better options for a fulfilling, long-term relationship
I can definitely believe this:
I was in a relationship with someone who I suspect may be a sociopath. There were signs, but I ignored them because we were having fun and the sex was fantastic.
She would occasionally say things that would strike me as "off" (claiming expertise in things that she only had a passing familiarity with) and even admitted at one point that she was diagnosed with sociopathy (psychopathy? I forget the difference and don't care enough to look it up at the moment). I brushed it aside because I felt that she cared for me, and to this day I am convinced that she did until I tried to break up with her. I was inexperienced in relationships, getting frustrated with a number of circumstantial obstacles, and didn't really know what to do other than "take a break" - I have a better idea of what this entails, now.
She was devastated. If she wasn't, that was by far the best acting I have ever seen in my entire life. She downed about a half a fifth of vodka that night and moved out within a week or two. We continued to see each other for another 18 months or so, although not in an "official" capacity. She was also seeing other guys but would tell me they were friends. This is around the point where I think she wrote me off. She lied to me and to them, and she was really good at it. I think she's engaged to the last guy she was seeing (while we were still having sex, mind you, but according to her fiance she and I were "just friends"... not sure how he can be so certain of that, but I know from experience you can trick yourself into believing the things that you want to).
I wound up cutting all contact with her and her family. It hurts to this day and I wish there would've been another way, but I know I'm better off for it. She probably is, too.
If you are asking this because you have the "opportunity" to date a sociopath/psychopath... I say run, very fast and very far away. They are not necessarily bad people by default, but there are much better options for a fulfilling, long-term relationship.
TL;DR: NO
I just find the idea of being close to someone so inhumane very fascinating. I want to know exactly what really goes on in their minds. Not that I could ever do so since I tend to avoid fake people(Those who hide who they are).
I just find the idea of being close to someone so inhumane very fascinating. I want to know exactly what really goes on in their minds. Not that I could ever do so since I tend to avoid fake people(Those who hide who they are).
What is so inhumane about it? A lot of mentally ill people, or people with people issues often hide who they are, and wear masks all the time, because to a degree what is so inhumane about them is normal in their world.
I guess it's inhumane as compared to what the majority of the people see as inhumane, not 'normal'. I think the use of inhumane without much defining is ok for non-scientific texts.
You didn't say otherwise, but I'd like to add that inhumane is not a normative judgment. There's a reason why they have issues and most likely they can't do anything about it. Simply because they are inhumane or mentally ill, doesn't mean they're bad or evil or to be seen as less worthy. They're just different and it would be stupid to ignore that.
I wanted to ask would any of you get yourselves involved with a sociopath romantically?
This is just a random question that's been on my mind. Would love to hear from all types, please.
What was the problem that you broke it off?
I wanted to address Yva's statement as well but I feel this is more appropriate than anything I was coming up with. These people have personality disorders, but they are still people. Perhaps "inhumane" was not what Yva meant, but I felt it implied they were lacking humanity which is simply not the case (most of the time, anyway).nosferatu said:What is so inhumane about it? A lot of mentally ill people, or people with people issues often hide who they are, and wear masks all the time, because to a degree what is so inhumane about them is normal in their world.