Hello all, this is my first post and I have a bit of a problem weighing on my heart. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly one and a half years but I would say I have seen a drastic change in him during the last six months. When I first met him, he was the outgoing one which was good to balance out my introversion. Now it seems we have switched places. The strange part is he is still just as loud and vivacious with his friends but quiet and in his head around me. About a year ago, he lost his job as a computer programmer and I think he has been depressed ever since (although he would never admit to it). He had severe insomnia for nearly 3 months and now his sleep schedule is from 5am to 3pm. He also finds it hard to be affectionate so I have to initiate just about everything. I just feel like he is in some sort of emotional black hole, and he doesn't want to expose me to it. At the same time I really do wish he would let me in. Perhaps I am being too inquisitive... every time I ask, he says he'll tell me when he's ready. I am just at a loss as to what to do. I crave emotional intimacy with him, and at the beginning of our relationship, I thought we had it. Now I feel like he's detached himself from his emotions as some sort of defense mechanism. I guess I am just looking for a way to reach out to him and hopefully understand how he is feeling. I just don't know how long I can go without his emotional feedback. Any suggestions would be of great help.