Hi! I’m interested to hear if other infj’s are struggeling with this.
So all of my friends call me a asshole magnet, and that they have never met anyone who’s as unlucky as me. They don’t understand why because they know me as safe, sensitive, kind and funny. Ever since i got single 3 years ago i’ve attracted men who is arrogant, cold and shallow. Of course most of them don’t show this right away, many work hard to seem like a caring gentleman. But as soon as i open up a bit and become my weird(?)self, they become really mean and dismissive. Many has said they thought i was «cool» and «hard to get», but got dissapointed when they got to know me, but they would love to keep fucking me if that’s okay. It makes me sick.
Always analyzing and overthink i’m trying to figure out why this is happening to me over and over. If i was a freak, i wouldn’t have had so many good friends who says they love me like a sister. And my co-workers says i bright up the environment at work. Don’t mean to brag, it’s just some background information. I’m starting to feel like something is wrong with me, that i’m not normal or something. Men are SO eager until i let my guard down, not a compliment to say the least. Is this common for infj’s or is it just me?
So all of my friends call me a asshole magnet, and that they have never met anyone who’s as unlucky as me. They don’t understand why because they know me as safe, sensitive, kind and funny. Ever since i got single 3 years ago i’ve attracted men who is arrogant, cold and shallow. Of course most of them don’t show this right away, many work hard to seem like a caring gentleman. But as soon as i open up a bit and become my weird(?)self, they become really mean and dismissive. Many has said they thought i was «cool» and «hard to get», but got dissapointed when they got to know me, but they would love to keep fucking me if that’s okay. It makes me sick.
Always analyzing and overthink i’m trying to figure out why this is happening to me over and over. If i was a freak, i wouldn’t have had so many good friends who says they love me like a sister. And my co-workers says i bright up the environment at work. Don’t mean to brag, it’s just some background information. I’m starting to feel like something is wrong with me, that i’m not normal or something. Men are SO eager until i let my guard down, not a compliment to say the least. Is this common for infj’s or is it just me?