Old School Vs New school....is there hope?

Man, you've got to get your act together if you want your choice of a partner and don't want to settle for what you don't want.

That means having a good financial position.

That means having a good reputation.

That means having good health and fitness.

In the words of my love Ariana, "Whoever said money can’t solve your problems
Must not have had enough money to solve ’em"

You'll meet women in the process of improving yourself, don't sweat it- take life by the horns.

You've got it fam.

 

@StRoNgO

 

You are going to have to ask yourself if it is even worth it given the times we are living in and it has gotten to where for some it is not worth the trouble at all. There are some bad apples out there that will go out of their way to take advantage of men like yourself where instead of a relationship you end up paying child support plus whatever else.

 

First off, what are you looking for and what is not clicking with you and other millennials? In other words, how do you see yourself as different from other people your age? Give an example of when you've experienced that disconnect with someone?

I can definitely relate. I often feel I'm a mix of generations or in between generations. I feel very minimal compatibility between myself and most in or outside my age group, give or take 5-10 years.

 

Hey there!

So being a girl in my early-twenties, I don’t use dating apps—I used to, but I hate them and only had mostly failed dates than successful ones so I stopped using them for more than a year. I unfortunately do have social media (Snapchat and Facebook; and Instagram which I don’t use at all anymore), but I haven’t been on social media as much due to its shallowness and just only use it to reach out towards family and friends. It can be tough wanting an ideal relationship and have old-school traditions due to this unrealistic, materialistic perspective in this society and age.

One thing I can suggest is this app called MeetUp. Which is basically a group meeting app that accommodates to your own personal interests and hobbies. If you enjoy rock climbing or hiking, you can search for local clubs or organizations that offer those sorts of events.

I haven’t used it personally but my friends have found good success with it when it comes to making new friends and/or potential relationships.

Wish you best of luck friend!

 

By that age what few there are have already been taken up and what remaining there might be never put themselves on the market. For old souls it only gets worse because the quality isn't there at all anymore as modern society stripped it all out through indoctrination in the schools and media.

 

Have you ever approached any women?

 

Well, you've got to convenient for each other. That's partnership. It's not healthy to be doing all of the giving or all of the taking.

 

Hi, Strongo!

Pin is right: If you work on self improvement you'll meet people in the process. Even better, people who are a better fit for you will be more attracted to you.

I haven't seen very many successful long-term relationships come out of dating apps. Most of my friends who use apps like Tinder just get heart broken or disappointed over and over again.
Try joining in some activities where you can meet people who share your interests. I know that is obvious, but it worked for people before the internet.

It's true people are different now. There are endless possibilities available online, so as soon as people hit a wrinkle they give up on potential relationships and look for something more 'ideal'... and everyone on the internet is so shiny and pretty.
So, that said, maybe continuing your search off-line is best.

I wouldn't say "life as we know it is more difficult". It actually seems the opposite to me.

 

Are you looking to meet a conventionally physically attractive woman who has those personal qualities? The reason you find them in older women is because they're a marker of maturity. Shallow people were around before social media and online dating. If I were to give advice, I would suggest looking for the seeds rather than shoots of the qualities you imagine will one day be in full bloom in the mother of your children - most likely when they're grown up.

 

Humor me in my stupidity.