Need some perspective and advice

I'm a great believer in listening to your gut instincts.

If you've got no spark, I'd make every effort to ensure he understands your feelings, and the limit of them. It's a very difficult thing - for me at least - to have someone have a huge crush on me when my feelings for them are strictly platonic. I hate to be led on; I hate to think I'm leading others on.

Hope you can work it out. Unrequited love/romantic tensions in the workplace can wreak absolute havoc on a life and career, as I know from experience.

 

Innerflame ... as long as your are not intentionally cruel do tell him that you don't see him that way. He will mope and try to convince you otherwise but he will get over it, and when he's done licking his wounds he'll come back around and everything will be ok. We don't tend to hold grudges.

 

Been there before. No matter what I did they always got hurt. The sooner the better. Trust me on this.. Or you could ask what their intentions are that might scare him if that's what you are trying to do...