I've NEVER does this before under any circumstance, under any context, and just the fact that i am reaching out in this manner should underline the fact that this is a situation I cannot resolve myself, but am looking to the crowd-sourcing knowledge of this group for some help....
in a nutshell... I've (male INFJ) recently reconnected with a brilliant ENFP female that has completely enraptured my time and feelings in less that a month... the first time we were together (years ago), we were intimate... but it was short-lived and simply a matter of physical attraction.... we both moved on... and reconnected as friends recently...
The new friendship was incredibly deep with long, heartfelt talks about life, heartache and love... future and past ...crying and condolences, and where we are now... and returned to the intimacy of a few years ago.... but then she recently pulled away completely under the guise of "work" and turned into a shell of her self from the uber-talkative... to barely connecting on anything more than the occasional txt message and brief phone conversations about work with me (a work that consumes her life)....
it's been a month since the pushback.... and we have slowly gotten to a point where things are a little more friendly and we are talking on the phone/txting about things more than work... and i will be seeing her next week for the first time at her place alone in almost a month....
But is it normal for them to retreat so severely? she also claims to have not gotten over a long-term relationship that she finally broke up over a year ago... that went on for almost 2 years too long.... what do i do to not pressure her into staying... while not letting her stray to far away to lose her again?
Thank guys!
in a nutshell... I've (male INFJ) recently reconnected with a brilliant ENFP female that has completely enraptured my time and feelings in less that a month... the first time we were together (years ago), we were intimate... but it was short-lived and simply a matter of physical attraction.... we both moved on... and reconnected as friends recently...
The new friendship was incredibly deep with long, heartfelt talks about life, heartache and love... future and past ...crying and condolences, and where we are now... and returned to the intimacy of a few years ago.... but then she recently pulled away completely under the guise of "work" and turned into a shell of her self from the uber-talkative... to barely connecting on anything more than the occasional txt message and brief phone conversations about work with me (a work that consumes her life)....
it's been a month since the pushback.... and we have slowly gotten to a point where things are a little more friendly and we are talking on the phone/txting about things more than work... and i will be seeing her next week for the first time at her place alone in almost a month....
But is it normal for them to retreat so severely? she also claims to have not gotten over a long-term relationship that she finally broke up over a year ago... that went on for almost 2 years too long.... what do i do to not pressure her into staying... while not letting her stray to far away to lose her again?
Thank guys!