I have very good friend. She is 16 years old and she is in high school. She is also INFJ. She has problems with her classmates. They used to pick on her because of her overweight. Girls in her class called her ugly farmwife and boys called her fat pig. They called her names or ignored her completely. Later, in her class came new classmate. Lets call him John/ I changed his name/. My friend told me, that the first time she saw him, she knew, that John is bad person. She felt it. John scored as INTJ/my personal feeling is that he is propably extrovert, however, he scored as INTJ/ in his previous school. They eject him, because he spark off directors car and he also had terrible marks.
My friend was nice to John in his first moments in new class, but it means nothing to him. He was very nasty. He ask her, if she want to became whale, he screams : "I want her!" everytime she walked near him and he laughed hysterically. He sent her messages and emails with various swears from different phone numbers.
After she lost weight/ she isnt slim aready, but she look better/, girls in her class told her that she doesnt look nicer, because it isnt visible that she lost weight/ but that isnt true, she lost a lot of her weight/ and that she is still ugly/actually she is quite attractive/. Girls dont want to her stay in front of stage on school ceremony, because "we have prettier girls in class and she is fat". They told her, that she doesnt care about her looks enough. Boys ignore her now. John comment now her hair or her clothes but not in nice way. He said that she has haircut like a monkey, for example.He laughed only because he see her.He ask a boy from another class if he slept with her alreadyo laughed when she talked with one of her classmates. John scream that they changed their phone numbers and the another boy is "very bad ".
Sometimes John pretend to be nice to her.Actually he isnt nice, he is mean. Last week, they told our new teacher/ rumors say that she slept with him before she came teach in her school/ that is ridiculous that my friend doesnt cry when he pick on her. He told, that he want her to cry.Whole class laughed. My friend was angry.
She ask many people in her class, why they are so mean to her. Some people told her, that she deserve it, because she is "piece of crap", some people said, that she imagine things and nobody is mean to her. One girl told her, that she should consider how she behave to them!!! It is very ridiculous, because she has been nice to her classmates, she helped them with homeworks, but after she called her names, she becomes reserved, but still polite. She is also the best student in her class with straight As. She is talented and sensitive and she sure doesnt hurt any people.
But John, which is mean and nasty, has bad marks, mostly Ds, he isnt good looking, he slept with almost every girl in my friends class, he drinks a lot- so he is the most popular boy in class!!! My friend ask me, what she makes wrong. Her classmates pick on her not only because of her look, but also because of their clothes, harcut, personality/they called her weird/,hobbies ....Marcus even pick on her because she going to church, because she likes books written by Jane Austen....Nothing on her is good enough for her classmates.However,I dont know answer her what she makes wrong.
My friend ask John, what kind of problem has with her. He told her, that he doesnt any problems with her , but she has problem with herself.
After that, she ask her class master, if she could help her. She told her, that she shouldnt pursue and she refuse help her.
Parents told her, thar she should solve her problem herself.
So she visited psychologist. First psychologist told her, that her classmates victimize her , that John is a bully and she should study in another school. But her mother told her, that she doesnt want to see her daughter leave a school like some kind of coward. So she visited another psychologist and she told my friend that John is in love with her and this is his way to show her his attention. My friend was angry of her psychologist and told me, that it was the most stupid thing she ever heard.
She is helpless. She ask me many times what she should do. But I am confused. What do you think about it?
My friend was nice to John in his first moments in new class, but it means nothing to him. He was very nasty. He ask her, if she want to became whale, he screams : "I want her!" everytime she walked near him and he laughed hysterically. He sent her messages and emails with various swears from different phone numbers.
After she lost weight/ she isnt slim aready, but she look better/, girls in her class told her that she doesnt look nicer, because it isnt visible that she lost weight/ but that isnt true, she lost a lot of her weight/ and that she is still ugly/actually she is quite attractive/. Girls dont want to her stay in front of stage on school ceremony, because "we have prettier girls in class and she is fat". They told her, that she doesnt care about her looks enough. Boys ignore her now. John comment now her hair or her clothes but not in nice way. He said that she has haircut like a monkey, for example.He laughed only because he see her.He ask a boy from another class if he slept with her alreadyo laughed when she talked with one of her classmates. John scream that they changed their phone numbers and the another boy is "very bad ".
Sometimes John pretend to be nice to her.Actually he isnt nice, he is mean. Last week, they told our new teacher/ rumors say that she slept with him before she came teach in her school/ that is ridiculous that my friend doesnt cry when he pick on her. He told, that he want her to cry.Whole class laughed. My friend was angry.
She ask many people in her class, why they are so mean to her. Some people told her, that she deserve it, because she is "piece of crap", some people said, that she imagine things and nobody is mean to her. One girl told her, that she should consider how she behave to them!!! It is very ridiculous, because she has been nice to her classmates, she helped them with homeworks, but after she called her names, she becomes reserved, but still polite. She is also the best student in her class with straight As. She is talented and sensitive and she sure doesnt hurt any people.
But John, which is mean and nasty, has bad marks, mostly Ds, he isnt good looking, he slept with almost every girl in my friends class, he drinks a lot- so he is the most popular boy in class!!! My friend ask me, what she makes wrong. Her classmates pick on her not only because of her look, but also because of their clothes, harcut, personality/they called her weird/,hobbies ....Marcus even pick on her because she going to church, because she likes books written by Jane Austen....Nothing on her is good enough for her classmates.However,I dont know answer her what she makes wrong.
My friend ask John, what kind of problem has with her. He told her, that he doesnt any problems with her , but she has problem with herself.
After that, she ask her class master, if she could help her. She told her, that she shouldnt pursue and she refuse help her.
Parents told her, thar she should solve her problem herself.
So she visited psychologist. First psychologist told her, that her classmates victimize her , that John is a bully and she should study in another school. But her mother told her, that she doesnt want to see her daughter leave a school like some kind of coward. So she visited another psychologist and she told my friend that John is in love with her and this is his way to show her his attention. My friend was angry of her psychologist and told me, that it was the most stupid thing she ever heard.
She is helpless. She ask me many times what she should do. But I am confused. What do you think about it?