BcL
Newbie
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 9, 4 and 5
These are some recent thoughts on my life living with an introverted perspective.
I'm beginning to like myself as I am, and feel more complete. I've got all the acceptance in the world within myself. It's been there the whole time.
Embarrassingly, I've spent countless years trying to be at the beck and call of some extreme extroverted types. I've tried so hard for nothing I've said yes when inside I meant no. I've caved in to peer pressures. I've dated when I didn't truly need to, I just wanted to fit in and look like an extrovert by having a boyfriend or by working in a particular job or studying to look busy and clever.
Some people believe they're nobody without other people around them. This is very untrue. You're always somebody, even when you think you're not. You know you exist, so you're constantly self aware. You impact others in some way.
I used to only take care of myself only if I knew someone else would see me. Now I feel more able to live as if somebody else is looking, but that somebody is me. It's good to be your best friend and not your bully.
There are plenty of people that share my interests, so I don't need to beat myself up for my tastes because they are allowed. I can say no when someone is only craving my company, and speaks at me and won't speak with me.
Also, I asked myself am I actually quiet? Or could it simply be a knee jerk reaction to people that are too clingy and uninteresting? I'm definitely not quiet with everybody. I think it's rare for introverts to find people that don't just require someone to be there with them, but are interested to connect and engage on an equal plain.
We introverts should never take anyone seriously if they're filling a void, lonely, friendless or bored! I believe it's unnecessary to label ourselves as shy, timid, quiet, or even weird purely based on others opinions of us. We're creative, valuable beings.
I'm beginning to like myself as I am, and feel more complete. I've got all the acceptance in the world within myself. It's been there the whole time.
Embarrassingly, I've spent countless years trying to be at the beck and call of some extreme extroverted types. I've tried so hard for nothing I've said yes when inside I meant no. I've caved in to peer pressures. I've dated when I didn't truly need to, I just wanted to fit in and look like an extrovert by having a boyfriend or by working in a particular job or studying to look busy and clever.
Some people believe they're nobody without other people around them. This is very untrue. You're always somebody, even when you think you're not. You know you exist, so you're constantly self aware. You impact others in some way.
I used to only take care of myself only if I knew someone else would see me. Now I feel more able to live as if somebody else is looking, but that somebody is me. It's good to be your best friend and not your bully.
There are plenty of people that share my interests, so I don't need to beat myself up for my tastes because they are allowed. I can say no when someone is only craving my company, and speaks at me and won't speak with me.
Also, I asked myself am I actually quiet? Or could it simply be a knee jerk reaction to people that are too clingy and uninteresting? I'm definitely not quiet with everybody. I think it's rare for introverts to find people that don't just require someone to be there with them, but are interested to connect and engage on an equal plain.
We introverts should never take anyone seriously if they're filling a void, lonely, friendless or bored! I believe it's unnecessary to label ourselves as shy, timid, quiet, or even weird purely based on others opinions of us. We're creative, valuable beings.