Is he an ENFJ? Is Fe conflict avoidant?

Hello!

So, I have a friend of mine, who I really like, and I’m wandering about his type. I’m quite sure he’s an NF, but he’s really bossy and agressive sometimes. He is dreamy, romantic, wandering, philosophic, sensitive and idealist, but he also finds critisism and harsh opinion expression constructive. These are usually really logical explanation so not an ”žI have my value system, and if you don’t like it, then fck you”.



He’s the kind of man who’ll see a girl and begin to think about ”žwhat if I’ve known her in a life before, and this is so romantic”, the man who’ll buy food and drink to all the homeless men while he’s walking down the streets, the one, who’ll fight for his ideal world, and the one, who can be really rude and logical. The dominant one, who’ll cry if he sees an ill puppy, and the man, who’ll eat you alive, if you say something illogical. Once I asked him about this, and he said ”žit’s because I think this kind of thinking is destructive. People should change it.”

Maybe he’s an ENFJ, with a really harsh idealism about how thinking and conversations should work among people? But isn’t Fe conflict avoidant? Or can Fe work like that?

 

I'm interested in his type, because I find his personality (in MBTI) controversial.

Although yeah, I'm gonna ask him out. But really, this wasn't the point.

 

He is E, or has a close E/I percentage. He needs stimulation from outside, he always reads the news, wants to know about everything in the world, gathers informations, and likes to react, speak. Though he spends some time alone, he gets really depressed if he has to be alone at home more than 3 days. This is why he hated school breaks at summer. He didn't have enough friends but hated to be at home all the time. When he's home, he usually reads on the internet, writes to forums, has conversations, or plays coop games. Though sometimes he changes and wants to be in his own world, with his movies, books, I'd rather say he is an E or a "borderline" E/I.

He took the test a few times. He got ENTP/ENTJ/INTP results, read the descriptions, but he says he thinks he's more romantic and idealist.

I think he's an idealist as V was in V for Vendetta (he's not that radical though ) and always says people won't change but it's better to give a chance than doing nothing.

Why I find this quite amusing, is that it looks like he has a huge F, though he's usually really logical, and straight to people.

 

I'm not sure if ENTPs are stereotipically so into this "let's change the world, we are all responsible for our environment, and people around us, I'll tell you what to do, and if you won't do it, I'll be really frustrated". They are usually not bossy, and I'm not sure if they usually want to change things politically and socially, because they find it inappropriate. Or maybe I'm too stereotypical. Other stuff: I have a friend, who usually said really sexist jokes (he made a parody), but this guy became really irritated, though he knew it was only a joke, and found it funny. I think he afraid of the jokes impact on others. That these will deepen the stereotypes in people, and they won't understand the jokes.
Why I'm not sure about ENTJ is that he always procrastinates, and though he is usually dominant in a group, and always tells his opinion (sometimes in a rude way), he is not organized, and has a really big problem with deadlines.

This is now a philosophy topic, I think.

 

But INFPs (stereotype) aren't conflict avoidant?

 

Valid.

 

Yes, I knew a few, and they are really avoidant and shy.

"Unless it is one of their deeper core values that gets tripped, then watch out! :O"

Hehe, yes, the Fi.

 

Yes, I only see the difference in the way of protection. It doesn't matter if the point is the protection of a system or value, with or without logical reasoning, or the point is the protection of logic.