I posted this on the INTJ forum but I would like an INFJ's perspective. I am an INTJ female & I have a 70% T preference. I made the guy I'm dating take the test. I had him pegged as an INFJ from the start. He tested INTJ with only a 1% T preference. When interactions between us or the environment are neutral, he appears as an INTJ. However he can turn "gooey" on a dime when interacting with me. Is it usual for an INTJ to be have short bursts of romantic gushiness? I've stopped being caught off guard but I know I unintentionally make him feel rejected at times. He has hinted that I never initiate phone calls, affection, etc.... I am making an effort because I do really like this guy but feel weird to "throw myself" at him so to speak. I always return the affection and usually answer the phone or return a text ASAP. I do not want to be insincere in my "courtship" but think that the dude likes to pursue the female--right? Should I continue to be my 70% thinking self or will he eventually feel rejected and look elsewhere for a "gooier" female. This dating thing is still weird for me despite being in my 30's--yikes. What is a mature male's INTJ's tendency to turn into F's, and for the INTJ female does your aloofness make the dude go running for the hills? Will this F-ness get "worse" or does anyone have advice on how I can become more "f'y"