Hi I am new.
Can't be bothered to introduce myself. I met an INFJ (tested him, based on suspicion) a few things I would love to know more about and get cleared. Assuming the majority of you are INFJ's or have admirable knowledgeable about these types of people, you're insights would be very much appreciated it.
T vs F. I'ts obvious, at least for me. He is a big F, and I, T. He seems to be quite articulate with his thoughts and feelings, emotionally expressive and mature. Something I envy and admire, which drew me to him further. But here's something I am also noicing. Quite a few:
1. Holding grudges over silly things (how I perceive them) for example, I told him we need to take it slow because he was telling me that he wants to spend his life with me. And when we first met and continued on our firsyt date, he knew I was the 'one' also why he did not want to have sex with me on the first date. Anytime I reach in for a hug or a kiss, he says "No we can't do that. You said we have to take it slow," in a pouty way. Even though hte other night I thold him that I can ve very stupid in love and do or say things that I don't mean, or that I can be quite insensitive unintentionally. He won't seem to let it go and just 'be'.
2. He seems to need words of affirmation. That is his love language - something I also encouraged him to test on and I was correct with my assumption.
3. He can be touchy-feely for me. Especially in public. I don't really like PDA but he will want to do a lot of this in public. He wants to show me off to everyone, so he says.
4. Insecurity - doesn't believe or understand why I am with him. He is such a great guy and it's nice to be with someone who has a much more develop F. I can learn so much from him.
5. Did I mention how emotional/sensitive he is? For example, this guy was hitting on me and my INFJ found out and made such a big deal about it. Whereas in my mind I didn't see the big deal. It's not like I was attracted to the guy, because I wasn't and I handled the situation. But no, he was VERY upset and emotional about it. Anytime we have talks, where he gives me emotional vomit I can't help but sit there in silence, because I have absolutely no idea what to say.
He knows that I am quite cautious and I need 'time' to think about things. Which he gives me. There were times when he would throw all this emotional crap onto me things like "I love you, I want to spend my life with you etc." And I wouldn't know what to do with it, so I would go home and analyze the situation, come back and talk about it with him. This bothers him a bit.
Anyways is this normal for an INFJ? Also the fact that he asked me to bring him an article of my clothing, doused in my favorite perfume so that he could have it when I was not there with him at night. Is that another INFJ thing, because it kind of stifled me. There are times when I do feel a little insecure or have my doubts because I wish I could be just as open and emotionally expressive as he is with me. I do feel a lot for him though.
Can't be bothered to introduce myself. I met an INFJ (tested him, based on suspicion) a few things I would love to know more about and get cleared. Assuming the majority of you are INFJ's or have admirable knowledgeable about these types of people, you're insights would be very much appreciated it.
T vs F. I'ts obvious, at least for me. He is a big F, and I, T. He seems to be quite articulate with his thoughts and feelings, emotionally expressive and mature. Something I envy and admire, which drew me to him further. But here's something I am also noicing. Quite a few:
1. Holding grudges over silly things (how I perceive them) for example, I told him we need to take it slow because he was telling me that he wants to spend his life with me. And when we first met and continued on our firsyt date, he knew I was the 'one' also why he did not want to have sex with me on the first date. Anytime I reach in for a hug or a kiss, he says "No we can't do that. You said we have to take it slow," in a pouty way. Even though hte other night I thold him that I can ve very stupid in love and do or say things that I don't mean, or that I can be quite insensitive unintentionally. He won't seem to let it go and just 'be'.
2. He seems to need words of affirmation. That is his love language - something I also encouraged him to test on and I was correct with my assumption.
3. He can be touchy-feely for me. Especially in public. I don't really like PDA but he will want to do a lot of this in public. He wants to show me off to everyone, so he says.
4. Insecurity - doesn't believe or understand why I am with him. He is such a great guy and it's nice to be with someone who has a much more develop F. I can learn so much from him.
5. Did I mention how emotional/sensitive he is? For example, this guy was hitting on me and my INFJ found out and made such a big deal about it. Whereas in my mind I didn't see the big deal. It's not like I was attracted to the guy, because I wasn't and I handled the situation. But no, he was VERY upset and emotional about it. Anytime we have talks, where he gives me emotional vomit I can't help but sit there in silence, because I have absolutely no idea what to say.
He knows that I am quite cautious and I need 'time' to think about things. Which he gives me. There were times when he would throw all this emotional crap onto me things like "I love you, I want to spend my life with you etc." And I wouldn't know what to do with it, so I would go home and analyze the situation, come back and talk about it with him. This bothers him a bit.
Anyways is this normal for an INFJ? Also the fact that he asked me to bring him an article of my clothing, doused in my favorite perfume so that he could have it when I was not there with him at night. Is that another INFJ thing, because it kind of stifled me. There are times when I do feel a little insecure or have my doubts because I wish I could be just as open and emotionally expressive as he is with me. I do feel a lot for him though.