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Insights, A gift for you all & 2nd post


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Oct 30, 2008
Hello (again)

This is my second post here and I was trying to figure out what I could offer my fellow peeps, something useful, insightful and if you're suffering at the mo, something to soothe... I'm an INFJ and I find that we tend to suffer the same introverted way... I'm not trying to compete for favortism or a high stand amongst any group, I do not come to fight with people.

My life fits very neatly into my indicator, it's not a simple path, to get to be rare, perhaps alot of us have had way over our fair share of turmoil? Or am I sweeping us all, generally? Let's say I've experienced my first 30 years of life thru the lens of false people and lies, trying to escape was a chore and eventually manifested itself in a personality disorder (of which I am free from) due to intensive therapy, emdr sessions and self love.

I used to visit a pro-suicide site because i was all out of sorts, my thoughts would come a million times a second and I just wanted out of the misery... The folks at the suicide site would tell you whatever you want to know on how to do yourself in, the topics get very explicit.. Well, a month or so ago, I said good bye to the people there, they carried me thru to today, listened intently and did not judge my wishes. Then it hit me!

Why do members of a pro-suicide site, who dish out instructions and methods on how to kill yourself obey the rule of 'non-judgmental' on it's members? but we always judge ourselves, we judge the weather, the trees, our spouses, the cat. I mean, when a person asks about death and they get their knowledge, it's a life and death issue, some go thru with it.

Up to recently I felt that I have been trying to be something I wasn't, in front of my parents, my siblings, my friends, Heck, if a girl came my way, I would give her an image of me; being secure, strong, hard working, hiding my insecurites (who by now has became an entity of it's own) - Has anyone ever told you "There's winners and Losers in our society"? - The TV tells you how to act, what's acceptable and what isn't, your parents give you rewards and tell you not to be a bad boy or girl, we somehow have a knowledge of what we shouldnt be, so we start the journey of acceptance, we reject ourself and try to be accepted by others, Teens do it with drugs... All of this drilled in since childhood, our integrity softened by the adults in our early lives (and how effective they were at scaling it back) - Your childhood might have been fine, some on the other hand weren't

These images of what we should be and what we shouldn't are pretty common in everyone, then how the heck do our relationships survive if there's 4 images in every marriage? - Almost everyone projects what they want and hide the bad parts, your partners too... when they dont fit the image we create for them, we get hurt, we tell them how to dress, speak, we try to control them and it becomes a war for control. I found that I was making assumptions way too much in respect of myself and other people, causing fights, disagreements, even job loss, I think you need a plan and some guidance to pull all of the important aspects of what being a person is, together and below is how:

May I suggest, my fellow INFJ's, listening ((or reading) you choose free download (or) trip to the mall) to Don Miguel Ruiz and what he has to say, it could change your life and he is not selling anything, I'm not being rhetoric or spouting religion, I'm just offering something that I can't find on this forum (I put his name in and nothing came back) - If you are experiencing problems in your life, derailment by any means, Ruiz can help to show you the problem so common to us all, you'll laugh when you see it happening all around us; afterall, how can you fix the problem if you dont know what the problem is?

I uploaded all 3 audiobooks to 4shared ~ 7 hours worth of multi million copy best sellers read by Peter Coyote
* NOTE: They are NOT self help books, self help books offer only platitudes and are part of the global control of fear - I prefer audiobooks cuz I can follow and understand, a typical audiobook lasts no more than 2 1/2 hours listened compared to +weeks read.

If you can spare a download, a couple of hours to listen, you would do good! - I've bounced back in MAJOR ways from an abusive childhood history, many hospital admissions, I was destined to become a statistic.. my Therapist is amazed at how well I've connected what he's tried to teach me and what Ruiz has solidified - I owe my sanity to this man for putting what was already within me in an orderly easy to understand way... It's not a *discovery* or an *invention* - it's been here for thousands of years; the truth on who you are - Dont let the outer society tell you who you are, because we dont fit their bill, we argue and row, we divorce.

Here's the Link, Don't be put off, he isn't preaching anything, you will be opened to a new awareness after just listening, it's gobsmacking! (yes, it is too good and 100% truth)

Sorry if it seems scattered, my mind ain't quite in the writing mood today and I prolly fluffed up a perfect opportunity to give you a gift... There's nothing to buy, no sunday's to wake up early on and tomorrow you can begin to see life thru new eyes. If you are religious, this is 101% for you, encompassed. Remember, I do not compete huur.
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It's people like you who keep people like us, sane too. :) Thank you for your extensive, considered post. I will certainly be looking into the recommendations you provided and I'm sure you will be of great value as well to many people at this forum.

Many, many good quotes that rang true in you post. Again, thanks for your insights.

Perhaps this is one reason why INFJ's tend to be on the more introspective and reclusive side at times, so as to be genuine to ourselves and not have to wear all of those many masks required to blend in without calling unwanted attention to ourselves.

Very funny stuff in there too re dating and marriage. Keep posting. :)
Much obliged! - it's a gift to know theres people who not only fit my etiology - medical diagnosis (those in my therapy group) - but those who share my temperament, what a wonderful place the world can be, if only we can see it thru the eyes of truth and love... These books are priceless, timeless and should be valued at over a million each for their value, Respect and love to all!
Hoodbran, thanks, this looks very interesting. When I have time I'll have a look. I'm so glad you found us!
Thanks Hoodbran! I am having some difficulties in my life now. Thanks so much.
I hope it finds you well, and gives you space to begin ironing out the edges life gives us from time to time... It helped me a whole deal, empowered me even.
seems interesting. I'll look into it when i get home.
I'm not religious (not christian, jewish or muslim atleast) but i'll look into it and give it a chance.
I think religion throws alot of people off, even any hint it can cause many to run fast and far away, to offer some pros:

  • The author is Mexican and of the Toltec people.
  • He offers you good psychology to ease burdens we place on ourselves
  • He shows you were you can begin to be free of emotional pain
  • He states some facts about the history of life with astounding truth
  • His teachings and philosophy is based on all traditions in the world
  • The teaching encompass the basic philosophy many singular religions stumble on
  • Personally, it has saved me over 18 months of hard learning in therapy, possible pain and future suicidal attempts, I really owe my life to this one man. So I say thanks everyday.
  • The is NO attempt to convert anyone to any religion in this work, Toltec wisdom is wisdom, not a subscription, knowledge is power, but wisdom will set you free!
So even though I mentioned religion, it would be a crying shame if that ever put anyone off from self deliverance from the worlds pressures and ways, I really hope everyone who reads this at least takes time to listen.. Even downloading the single file: 'The Domestication and dream of the planet' in the folder, you can get a feel of it's value in your life.

Just my 2c:)

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downloading atm.
I am just listening to Bob Marley.. Redemption song;

Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds

Knowing Truth, thy heart no more
Will ache with error, for the Truth shall show
All things subdued to thee, as thou to Me.

As you listen, your integrity will recognise the truth this man is saying, it's a powerful part of you that just knows truth, listen to your heart and not your mind when you hear his words...

Good Luck!
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follow up..

If you made it to the end...

Here's a little something for the spiritual ones in us;
Dreaming while conscious is like journeying on the highway of life, the realm of the collective and with practise, you can envision separate realities just as the old naguals of mexico, use your spiritual eyes with ease...

(it's long, but complements this way of life)

What is Dreaming?

Well, the Toltecs saw this as a twofold process. First, they saw that we were responsible for what we dreamed in our minds and that that was dependant on where we chose to focus our attention. For example, choosing to be happy is as easy as putting our attention on what is beautiful in life, rather than putting our attention on believing our fear-based beliefs and emotions. Even more important, they saw that we could use our attention to take our focus off of the world our physical eyes assemble for us and instead put our focus on the world we can see if we use our spiritual eyes.

Second, they saw that by changing the way we dream in our virtual reality (our mind), we ultimately change what we project out onto our physical reality. This, in turn, affects the entire way we co-create our lives (what we choose to create and manifest). For Toltecs, the goal was to be free to express their lives without the limitations of their programming, to be truly happy and express their unconditional love without fear. To do that, they needed to get control over their attention. This is where the practice of Dreaming came into play.
Specifically, Dreaming is a technique that enables us
to change our ordinary dream of non-awareness
into one of awareness by the purposeful
and controlled use of our attention.

The bottom line is that the more control we develop over our attention in Dreaming, the more control we will have over the dream of our life. Dreaming enables us to create beautiful lives filled with magic and mystery, and it becomes our gateway to the Infinite. Please join us for this magnificent program of self-realization!

The Art:

It is quite impossible to practise active dreaming when the physical body is tense and uncomfortable; therefore, the very first prerequisite in setting up dreaming is to cultivate the ability to achieve complete relaxation at will in the chosen moment. We term this state of relaxation, deep relaxation, and in the final analysis it is nothing more than a conditioned reflex.

In setting up dreaming it is important to set aside a room and a time of the day in which you will not be disturbed for at least thirty minutes. Ultimately an experienced warrior can dream anywhere, at any time, no matter what his or her circumstances or surroundings may be, but in the beginning it is a great help to create the ideal environment in which to dream.

Having chosen the time of day at which you are going to practise dreaming, try more or less to stick to that same time every day, but realise that this will be purely from the point of view that a set time fosters a sense of self-discipline. Strictly speaking, the time of day has very little impact upon dreaming, and it therefore does not matter when it is done, except that it is obviously not a good idea to practise dreaming when you are tired and apt to fall asleep. Having said this, I should point out that different periods of the day do yield differences in the quality of dreaming, but this is only of relevance to very experienced dreamers who are engaged in specific types of research work. For ordinary dreaming by the warrior who is not so engaged, any time of the day or night can be utilised. However, you should never attempt to practice dreaming when your stomach is full, or after having consumed alcohol.

The room chosen should preferably contain a bed because, once again, it is a lot easier to set up dreaming by lying on a bed, in order to achieve maximum relaxation. Care too should be taken that the light in the room is neither glaring nor disturbing, and if at all possible, the room should also be fairly quiet and warm, but with plenty of fresh air. Once the conditioned reflex has been set up, and proficiency in dreaming has been achieved, the warrior can, if need be, dream sitting perched on a busy pavement in full sunlight, whilst surrounded by noisy traffic, but this obviously takes a great deal of personal power and is only possible after considerable practice.

Having chosen the room and time of day, dress in something which is comfortable and just warm enough. Tight clothing, shoes and jewelry can be an awful nuisance if you are trying to relax, and they often have the annoying habit of cutting off the blood supply to some part of one's anatomy after a while. If you are practising dreaming during the day, draw the curtains so that the light in the room is subdued. If you are practising at night, make sure that there are no overhead lights causing a glare, but also do not turn out all the lights. Having something like a bedside lamp placed outside of your peripheral vision is about the best solution. You are now ready to start learning the conditioned reflex.

STEP 1a:

Lie down on the bed, flat on your back, using either a light pillow or no pillow at all. Rest your arms on the bed at your sides; the hands a small distance away from the body and with palms up; that is, facing the ceiling. Your legs too should be slightly parted, so that your feet do not touch each other. Close your eyes lightly, sigh deeply, cough if you feel the need to do so, and then concentrate upon relaxing. You are now going to learn deep relaxation.

In learning the conditioned reflex it is important also to learn muscular isolation, and although for most people this is a very difficult thing to do, it is nevertheless essential for learning to relax. Starting with the toes of both feet tense them by crunching them up tightly for a few seconds. Now release the tension abruptly and completely. In tensing and releasing it is not the duration of tension that is important, but the degree of tension achieved. Never tense for so long that the muscles begin to cramp, because if they do you will have a terrible time and achieve nothing. Tense as hard as you can for only a few seconds, and then release as abruptly and as completely as you can.

When you tense the toes, concentrate on not tensing any other part of the feet or body simultaneously. Complete muscular isolation is in fact impossible, for the simple reason that all muscles are interactive; but it is still possible to concentrate tension in any one given area. Therefore you should not have to tense up the face, or even the legs for that matter, when you try to tense the toes.

Once you have tensed and released the toes, tense the insteps and calf muscles by forcing the relaxed toes down towards the bed. In doing this you should not again tense up the toes. Hold the tension for a few seconds, and then release abruptly. Now repeat this process with the thighs and knees. Pushing the knees down against the bed, get the feeling of pulling them down towards the bottom of the bed, taking care not to tense the calves and feet.

Now tense up the buttocks by squeezing and pinching them together, hold, and release. Next, tense up the lower abdomen by getting the feeling of bringing the hip bones down and together, so as to contract what I call the 'bikini' muscles. Now do the upper abdomen and chest by forcing the ribs together and downwards. Then force the shoulders down towards the bottom of the bed. Finally, tense the back by getting the feeling that you are arching backwards in an attempt to make your shoulders touch your buttocks, but without literally arching your back.

Having done the body and the legs, you repeat the process with the arms and hands. It is by no means easy to achieve the necessary muscular isolation in this part of the body, and it is therefore best to practise the muscular isolation of the arms separately whenever you have the chance to do so, otherwise you will spend a great deal of time and frustration in trying to isolate the sections of the arms during the exercise. In doing this, first tense up and release the upper arms, then the forearms, and finally the hands, by crunching them up into tight fists before releasing.

Next, tense up the neck muscles by simply pushing the neck backwards into the bed. Then, tense up the face muscles by screwing up the whole face into a tight ball, tensing also the eyes, the lips, and the mouth by biting on the teeth and forcing the tongue against the back of the teeth. Finally tense the muscles of the scalp by frowning upwards without opening the eyes. Now lie still and make sure that the teeth are slightly apart and the tongue and eyelids are fully relaxed. Mentally check every part of your body to ensure that no tension remains anywhere. If you do detect tension somewhere, then tense and release that part of the body again, but take care not to tense up another part of the body in the process. This is where the muscular isolation becomes so necessary.

The sign that your body is fully relaxed is the feeling of being extremely heavy - as if you are sinking right into and through the bed. If you try to move your fingers, the movement should feel slow, sluggish, and heavy, like trying to move your fingers through thick treacle. In practice you may find that you will have to repeat the tensing and relaxing two or three times more before you are fully relaxed, but the rewards are well worth the effort. Under no circumstances must you rush this part of the training, nor should you move on to the next step before you have achieved complete relaxation.

STEP 1b:

Having relaxed deeply and completely, keep your eyes closed, and do the following breathing technique, which is termed the 2/4 breathing sequence. This breathing technique, unlike many others, is in itself perfectly harmless and safe but, as with any other technique, please adhere to the instructions as given.

Keeping the teeth slightly apart and the tongue fully relaxed, breathe in to a count of four (4), hold for a count of two (2), breathe out to a count of four (4), and hold for a count of two (2). This is one cycle; now repeat the cycle ten to twelve times, but no more, otherwise you will begin to hyperventilate. All breathing should be done only through the nose.

The speed of the counting should be neither too fast nor too slow. Ideally the speed should be worked out in relation to one's own heart pulse, taking two beats to one count. Ascertain this speed beforehand by feeling your pulse, and counting each beat as 'one and two and three and four and', giving a total of eight beats to four counts. The idea here is to fill the lungs totally on the inbreath, and to empty them completely on the out-breath. In doing the counting, count mentally without moving the tongue or jaws.

Take care that you do not tense up the body during the breathing, which should be relaxed and easy, but nevertheless quite vigorous. Do not worry about making a noise. You should be able to hear your breathing quite loudly and clearly. When you hold your breath after the intake you must not close off your throat by blocking the air with your throat or tongue. Simply suspend the breathing with the feeling of hovering in mid-air. Any blocking will only cause tension. Likewise, after exhaling, just leave the lungs deflated under the force of gravity; do not block or hold anything. After you have finished between ten or twelve cycles, breathe in to the count of four (4), hold for two (2), and then exhale in one rapid expulsion through the open mouth, allowing all air to escape before the lips slowly close, seemingly of their own accord. Resume normal breathing naturally when the body urges you to do so. This final breath of 'in through the nose and out through the mouth' should be in the nature of a huge sigh, and is termed a cleansing breath.

Now simply lie still for a few minutes longer without falling asleep, and enjoy the utterly relaxed state of mind and body. Never forget to do the cleansing breath, for any deep sigh is a signal to the subconscious mind that you wish to change something. This is extremely important, for the subconscious mind is very much like an automatic pilot. It is the subconscious mind that is responsible for both breathing and the heart beat, amongst many other functions. We do not consciously have to think about making our heart beat or about breathing, but we can at any stage we wish, take over from the automatic pilot. However, if we do, we must also make it clear when we wish automatic handling to be resumed. Many an apprentice has found him or herself in a very tight spot after going to sleep whilst doing the breathing sequence. If, after having fallen asleep, the subconscious mind does not resume normal breathing, and it can and does happen, the result is severe hyperventilation causing extreme nausea, a violent headache, and a totally erratic heart beat, which invariably brings about terror and panic.

Steps 1a and 1b should be done every day, for it is during this process that the subconscious mind is being trained to associate the 2/4 breathing sequence with deep relaxation. Once the subconscious mind recognises the process, you only have to initiate the 2/4 breathing and the subconscious mind will send the body into a state of complete relaxation - something which is not only useful for dreaming, but also for getting rid of unwanted nervousness or tension. Ultimately the warrior refines this technique down to just having to do the cleansing breath in order to go straight into dreaming.

Depending upon the individual, it can take anything from four to six weeks of daily practice before the subconscious mind has established the conditioned reflex. If you are prone to a great deal of tension, it can take up to three months before the reflex has been set; but even if this should be the case, just keep on persevering, for persistence eventually overcomes all obstacles. However, realise that if at any time before the conditioned reflex has been established you miss a day, you will put your progress back by at least a week, and sometimes even by as much as two weeks.

After about four weeks you can begin testing to see if you have already acquired the conditioned reflex, by doing the following test. Simply lie down on the bed, close your eyes, take a deep sigh, and then without having gone through the process of tensing and releasing, do three to four cycles of the breathing sequence, followed by the cleansing breath. Now give the subconscious mind one or two minutes to register the command. If you find that you quite happily slip into deep relaxation, then you have acquired the conditioned reflex, and you can now move on to step 2. If nothing happens, then continue with the tensing and relaxing for another week or so, then test again. Keep this process up until the conditioned reflex has been cultivated.

Under no circumstances should you proceed to Step 2, or even experiment with it, before you have mastered the conditioned reflex. If you do so, you will only be undermining your own personal power. Therefore resist the temptation to rush into dreaming like a bull in a china shop, and content yourself with taking everything one step at a time. If you heed this advice you will never regret the time and patience you have invested.

STEP 2: "The Yellow Rose of Friendship".

After you have achieved deep relaxation, perform the following visualisation technique termed the Yellow Rose of Friendship. Realise that ultimately this section of dreaming is eliminated if the warrior should have the need to enter an altered state of perception quickly, but in formal dreaming, and definitely in setting up dreaming, it is a vital prerequisite for entering heightened awareness in this specific technique.

The Yellow Rose of Friendship is a symbol which is ancient beyond belief, having its origin quite literally in a time before time. In other words, it is a force which originated before this present manifestation of the universe, and when seen by a seer creates the visual impact of a yellow rose. This ancient symbol is described in the first of the four parts of what is known as the Sorcerer's Explanation; an equally ancient and powerful verbalisation of manifestation, life, and the purpose of incarnation. Thus, the symbol of the Rose is extremely potent when properly visualised, and it has the property of sending the practitioner far into the left side. In due course of time, the Sorcerer's Explanation will be revealed, but for now we will simply look at how the Rose should be used in the art of dreaming.

A great deal of nonsense has been written about the art of visualisation, and as a result people are generally quite confused as to what this art entails. There is nothing mystical or difficult about visualisation; for in the final analysis it is nothing more than recalling to memory the desired object or being. Every man, woman and child quite spontaneously practises visualisation every time they think of a favourite person or thing. If you are unclear about what a rose looks like, then study one every day for several days until you are quite clear about all the details pertaining to every part of it. For this purpose you do not necessarily need to have a yellow rose - any colour will do, for you only need the shape, structure and detail. This study can be done whilst you are still practising to achieve the conditioned reflex.

Once you are clear about what a rose looks like, and you have acquired the conditioned reflex, lie down on the bed, close your eyes, and do three or four cycles of the breathing sequence, followed by the cleansing breath. Once you have achieved deep relaxation, visualise in front of you a beautiful yellow rose. The colour should be a lovely soft pastel yellow, neither too light nor too dull. Although pastel yellow, the colour should be vibrant and completely clear, with no trace of cream, gold, orange, or red.

The rose itself should be a crisp loose bud, in which only the outermost petals have begun to unfold, whilst the innermost petals are still closed. More than this I am not permitted to impart, for each and every one of us has to learn to see the Rose for what it truly is. Do not be despondent, because it will not take you long before you will begin to see the most amazing detail in the rose. In this you must follow your feelings; that is, your heart. If you feel something is not quite right, then experiment and change it, until it feels right for you. In due course of time you might well change it again, and this process will go on until finally you will know that you now have the right rose. The astonishing thing here is that ultimately everyone sees the rose in exactly the same way, for at the end of the day there is only one Yellow Rose of Friendship.

You will find yourself faced with all sorts of questions in trying to visualise the rose. Does it have a stem and, if so, are there leaves attached? If there are leaves, how many, and how are they placed and clustered? Is the rose attached to a bush, and if so, where is the bush placed? If the rose is part of a bush, is it the only rose? How many petals does the rose have, and how are these arranged? Do the petals fold right over left, or vice versa? The questions are many, and each one has significance. Each of these questions can and should be answered, but in this respect know that there is only one right answer for each question, and that these answers are the same for everyone!

Do not try to answer all the questions at once. Take your time in discovering the rose at leisure, and in time you will be rewarded by the most breathtaking beauty and composition. As you continue to visualise the rose, day after day, year after year, you will begin to sense the significance of every part of the rose and, as a result, the most astounding secrets will gradually be revealed to you. Unveiling the Yellow Rose of Friendship is one of the most exciting practices of the Toltec tradition - a practice which can only be described as truly magical! Also, there is no other technique that builds so much personal power as unveiling the Rose, and it is for this reason that no-one who has seen the Rose is permitted to impart its secrets, for to do so is to rob the apprentice of the opportunity to harvest his or her own personal power.

Apropos the above, realise that you should also not talk about your experiences of the Rose to anyone other than someone whom you can trust as being a genuine seer. Keep all you discover about the Rose quietly to yourself, and if you are going to notate your discoveries in a journal, then ensure that your journal remains confidential at all times. Above all, remember that the Rose is a symbol which will put you in touch with a most potent force of unimaginable antiquity. As such it should always be treated with due respect and caution, not in the sense of yielding to superstition, but in the sense of handling an unknown force. As you visualise the Rose, allow it to revolve clockwise on the horizontal plane, and at the same time to turn slowly on its own axis, also clockwise. This movement is much like the rotation of the planet upon its own axis as it spins around the sun. At some point along its orbit the rose should slowly turn upside-down, and then correct itself again shortly before coming to a stop at the end of the revolution. All this movement is to enable the practitioner to view every part of the rose in minute detail. Therefore the speed at which the Rose revolves should not be hurried, but neither should it be laboriously slow.

Once the Rose has completed a single revolution, allow it to come to a stop. Now mentally feel a petal of the Rose with your thumb and forefinger. The texture should feel like cool soft velvet. Start feeling the petal near its base, and then run your fingers gently to the top of the petal. Notice the thickness and the strength of the petal near the base, and how its texture becomes progressively thinner and more frail towards the top.

Having felt the Rose, mentally smell its delicate scent. The fragrance should be strong and clear, exactly like a real rose, and not cloying like a cheap perfume. Smelling the Rose is not easy for most people, and since this is also dependent upon one's general progress upon the Warrior's Path, it can take a long time before one is able to smell the Rose. Sometimes an apprentice will have what can be termed beginner's luck, but all too often after this initial success the scent has a habit of just vanishing. However, in time it will return.

After completing this section on the Rose, let it fade quite rapidly from your inner sight, but remain in your relaxed state for a few more minutes without allowing yourself to fall asleep. Practise this second step of setting up dreaming until you can perform it effortlessly, and are fully familiar with every aspect of the Rose. It is not necessary first to be able to answer all questions concerning the Rose before proceeding to the next step. Normally it takes many years of practice before you are able to unveil the Rose fully, but just ensure that you can visualise the Rose with ease and clarity before proceeding to Step 3.

One final point needs to be elucidated with respect to the Rose; namely, that it acts like a barometer in showing our personal relationship to the world around us. Therefore, if the Rose is determined to look wilted and scruffy, no matter how hard you try to make it crisp and fresh, leave it, but realise that you will have to take a good hard look at your relationship to the world around you, in order to find out where you are out of harmony with life in general. Likewise, if the colour continues to fade to a dull pale yellow, you are once again out of harmony with the world around you.

Step 3: "Entering the Colour".

This section of setting up dreaming is what is known as entering the colour; that is, the colour of the dreamer. Becoming aware of the colour will be your first indication that you have succeeded in setting up dreaming. However, it must be stressed that you must not try to visualise a colour, as with the Rose, but must see whatever colour presents itself to you, as if you have your eyes open and are looking at a screen lit up in a uniform colour. There is absolutely no mistaking the colour once it does appear, and therefore you will not be left with any doubt whatsoever. If at any time you think that maybe you are seeing a colour, then take it as a fact that you are definitely only imagining a colour. When the colour does present itself, it is clear and very real!

It mostly happens that when the colour first appears, it will be in an odd irregular shape, much like a blotch of ink. When this happens, concentrate upon mentally smoothing out the edges of the colour until it has become uniform and fills your entire inner view. In doing this, do not stare at the colour directly, otherwise it will simply, and most frustratingly, disappear. If it should vanish, wait until it again emerges, and then try once more to even it out. Remember, practice makes perfect, and depending upon the individual, you can find yourself playing hide and seek with the colour for some weeks.

Once you have achieved a uniform colour which fills your entire view, you will discover that you have somehow mysteriously entered into the colour, in that it will appear to you as if you are totally surrounded by the colour on all sides, above and below. Furthermore, you will now also be able to look at the colour directly, and even move your eyes around anywhere without it having the tendency to vanish from sight. You will now have achieved what is termed entering the colour, and this is the sign that you are in heightened awareness proper.

Sometimes the shade of colour is so dark that an apprentice will at first not recognise it, believing that he or she is simply staring into blackness. Should you find that you also seem to be staring into a black hole, then peer closely at that darkness, as if you are looking for a texture of sorts. In time you will begin to discern minute specks of colour. Once you have accomplished this, start to merge these tiny specks mentally into one coherent centre, until they form a mass of colour, and then proceed as above.

Once you can enter the colour easily and at will, proceed to Step 4. As you gain experience in working with the colour you will in due course of time begin to notice that if you glance casually at any shadow you may encounter in your daily life the shadow will no longer appear dark or grey, but will now be in your colour, especially the edges of the shadow.

STEP 4: "Declaration of Intent".

This section of dreaming is termed the declaration of intent and, once again, as with the Rose, the declaration is used only in formal dreaming. Should the warrior need to enter an altered state of perception immediately, the Rose and the declaration are eliminated.

The declaration of intent is different for every group of dreamers, and therefore I again cannot reveal too much. However, this also is not really a handicap, for the simple reason that all the declarations start and end in the same way and, moreover, dreaming can be practised very successfully without having the full declaration. In time, as you begin to sense to which group you belong, and as you gain proficiency in the art of dreaming, you will discover the four missing words in the partial declaration given here.

Once you have finished with step 3, allow yourself a moment or two of stillness, and then mentally sound the following words: Lord, I enter here that I may be filled with the richnesses of life ......, ......, ......, ......; to be able to share them with those who are in need of upliftment in the mind, and of peace unto the body.

The term 'Lord' has absolutely no religious implications at all, but is merely the ancient and accepted nomen for one's own dreamer. 'I enter here', refers to entering the colour or the vibration of the group to which one belongs. You must through dreaming ascertain for yourself what is meant in your own group by the 'richnesses of life'. There are four of them, each one being assigned to one of the four quarters, starting in the East and then going North, South, and ending in the West. Take great care in what your understanding is of the final part: under no circumstances should the statement be taken at face value.

In order to sound the declaration you must ensure that you do not turn it into a kind of internal dialogue, by talking to yourself, or in any way muttering it under your breath, moving the tongue silently, or whatever. The best way in which to achieve this sounding is to imagine that you are standing in some huge stone-walled building, and hearing your own voice speaking somewhere in the centre of that building. The feeling you should get is that you are listening to your own voice reverberating, but not echoing, off the walls of the building. Practice this at any time other than in your dreaming, until you can do it with ease. In dreaming sound the declaration only once. Even if you feel that it was clumsy or haphazard, do not try and repeat it. If you do, you will only succeed in turning it into internal dialogue quicker than you will believe possible!


We now come to dreaming proper, something that is a lot easier to write about than to master. The trick here is that once you have sounded the declaration of intent, you must allow yourself to go further and further into left side awareness. The problem arises because the rational mind associates this with falling asleep, and a terrible battle ensues between going into the left side and falling asleep.

There is no help I can give you here except once again to state that practice, determination and perseverance, makes perfect. You must reach that stage of awareness in which you are hovering on the brink of deep sleep, but in trying to achieve this you will, no doubt, fall asleep time after time until finally you discover that it is possible to let the physical body fall asleep whilst you retain full awareness. The sign that you have achieved this is that although you will feel asleep, you will nonetheless still be fully conscious of all sounds and smells, and feel that you are somehow highly alert.

Once in this state you simply concentrate upon the colour and wait and see what comes up. Do not try to still your mind in any way whatsoever. If you do you will only be draining yourself of personal power. Simply allow your thoughts to flow unimpeded, but cultivate the feeling that you are watching them play off on a television screen. This will create in you a sense of detachment, and in time you will find that, because of this detachment, you quickly enough lose interest in your thoughts. What in effect will happen is that your thoughts will fade away because you are not sustaining them with your intent. Once your thoughts have faded away you will be left suspended in only the colour, meaning that you have stopped the internal dialogue.

What happens beyond this point is what is termed true dreaming. Again, depending upon the individual, there can be a long time in which nothing seems to be happening. The trick here is to watch for whatever feelings may come up for you. When a feeling does surface, and even this can take a long time before anything significant is noticed, just flow with it without trying to grasp it or analyse it. Most of the time it will only be some while after the dream that you will notice that you suddenly have clarity on an issue which has been bothering you, or that you have somehow come up with the answer to a question, or that you have become aware of knowledge that you never knew you had. In the final chapter we will look at a few examples of how to fathom the feelings which arise during dreaming.

Dreaming can sometimes yield a visual impact, or an audio impact, or both simultaneously. When this happens, just watch the scene unfolding, or just listen to the message, which most of the time is very cryptic. After the dream you will have time enough in which to fathom the meaning of these impressions, for should you try to grasp their meaning whilst they are unfolding, you will simply interrupt the process and dispel the experience. Having explained this, you must, however, not make the mistake of expecting or anticipating either visual or audio impressions in your dreaming. It is vital here to remember that essentially dreaming yields personal power, and that this power can only flow to you through feeling. It is therefore the feelings generated during dreaming which are important. Any visual or audio impressions which may arise are by no means the rule, and should be looked upon only as an added bonus.

Apropos the above, it is also important to know that when visual impressions do arise in dreaming, then the only ones which should be noted are those that are in full colour. In true dreaming, colours are always very clear and vibrant, in fact almost luminous, and can even sometimes appear to be three-dimensional. However, in the beginning stages it quite often happens that an apprentice will get impressions that are decidedly monochrome or black and white. All such impressions, no matter how fascinating, should be ignored. Note them, but do not try to keep them in focus. Simply allow them to fade as quickly as they will. These black and white images, which more often than not are the faces of what appear to be unknown people, are technically termed ghost dreaming, and are the result of unresolved feelings which are strong enough to cause a visual impact. They are therefore in the nature of past events which should be dealt with in recapitulation. Do not fall into the trap of trying to recapitulate these events during dreaming, because if you do, you will get stuck in ghost dreaming and never master the real art of dreaming.

Finally, as far as time is concerned, you should as a rule of thumb never spend more than twenty minutes in dreaming. You will find that after approximately twenty minutes you will spontaneously feel the urge to return to normal awareness. This is as it should be, because although people are mostly never aware of it, life pulses at twenty-minute intervals. Because of this fact, intervals of twenty minutes are a most natural rhythm in all of life [citation needed], and therefore no matter when you decide to do what, you will quite automatically adopt a twenty-minute rhythm. Sometimes, depending upon your frame of mind and your emotional state, this rhythm can pulse in intervals which are slightly shorter or longer than twenty minutes, but this too is natural and need not concern you. It is only when you ignore this natural rhythm altogether that fatigue and frustration begin to set in.

There is a step beyond this point, but this you must discover for yourself through the power of your own dreaming. In the final analysis, dreaming is a most private and personal experience and, in this, your own dreamer will begin to guide you as you gain proficiency in stopping the internal dialogue. Relax into your practice of dreaming and be content to build your personal power at whatever your own individual pace may be. You cannot hurry the process, nor can you force it - all will unfold at a pace which is suitable for you.

Moreover, realise that the art of dreaming is the ultimate meditation, in that you will be entering that vibration which signifies your dreamer's dream, and in that vibration you will learn about yourself, your purpose in this lifetime, and about life in general. It is also in dreaming that you will learn the true meaning and significance of intelligent co-operation. In mastering this technique the world becomes your oyster, and a day will come when you will realise that you are beginning to do things you were never able to do before. In other words, power will then be at your command, and the Eagle's gift will be yours for the taking. What you will do with your life after that, and how you will utilise your power, is entirely dependent upon you as an individual, and upon the impeccability of your spirit. That you may reach this point speedily, and that you may use your power wisely, is my most sincere wish for you.
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