Hello,
I'm new (obviously). I don't really know how to begin this thread, other than to say...
I'm the only INFJ I have ever known. Sometimes I have mistyped myself as an INTJ, but through reading, research, and self-discovery I am fairly certain I am an INFJ; sure, I can reason through things and be quite logical, but that's my need for order driving me to come to a conclusion that reckons with my inner value system.
I am deeply affected by others' words and their perceived opinion of me. I am (more importantly) deeply moved to help people and make the world, somehow, better.
I know several individuals (family, friends, and coworkers) who have a prevalent Intuition (both introverted and extroverted) function, but I can't clearly type anyone in my life who is INFJ (like me). In fact, I seem to be surrounded by Sensing types: my mother, my sister, my husband, my roommate, two of my besties...
My closest friend in the world, my bosom buddy, is an INFP, and she gives me hope that I am not alone, or totally other, different. Sometimes I feel we are the only ones that "get" each other.
Anyway, the differences in personality between my husband and I cause quite a few fights, but so far we are very grateful for our differences. We are relatively young in our relationship (married 2 years in July, together 4 years in August), which is scary (what if this is only temporary? What if he falls out of love with me? we are too different to still be attractive to each other if we fall out of love), but we have a very faithful commitment to continue loving each other, including forgiving and forgetting (as best as possible).
Right now my "problem" is our "roommate"; she's a friend of my sister's that roomed with my parents. My ISFJ mother had a falling out with her, and pretty much kicked her out. So, to help her out, she moved in with us. She is an ESFP.
She is SO chatty. At first (that is, before she moved in and through the first week or two), I didn't mind the chattiness because i thought she was a real friend. Then, one night after a particularly stressful week (my mother landed in the hospital for heart issues, which we were previously unaware of), i finally took a break and she said she would come hang out with me. I called her to hang out when i got to the destination, but she never checked her phone, and consequently, i hung out all by myself in a crowded restaurant on a Saturday night.
It turned out okay that I was by myself, although some strangers sat at the same table as me and it was obviously awkward and claustrophobic. But this little incident was a wake-up call that this girl is a family acquaintance, not my personal friend. It doesn't matter how much personal information she knows about me or how much about who she is I know and perceive, we are not friends.
Since then, she hasn't got the hint. For the most part, we don't see each other because she has a night job and i a day job. But if I stay up too late, she does come home and wants to chat it up. All I say in response is "uh huh", the nod and smile, a million times, occasionally throwing in a tidbit myself. But she can go on and on...
I dont want her to move out, and i don't hate her. She just really annoys me. Why does she have to talk to me? Why does she have to share everything? She talks about her role model a lot (a female evangelist) or about church/Christianity-related stuff. But I am not a practicing Christian anymore. She knows this; she just doesn't get any hints.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to politely, kindly,and without souring things, shut her up?
***I should clarify that I am a full-time working mom and very rarely get to hang out with any friends, and very rarely take any personal time for myself. As an IN, I often feel I am drowning in hopelessness,nothingness. I don't get to reflect, I rarely get to recharge, and I even rarer are deep, meaningful, affirming conversations with friends (in particular, because two of my closest friends, including my INFP bosom buddy, live 4 hours away; my other closest friend, lives in the same town as me, but has medical problems and works full-time).
I'm new (obviously). I don't really know how to begin this thread, other than to say...
I'm the only INFJ I have ever known. Sometimes I have mistyped myself as an INTJ, but through reading, research, and self-discovery I am fairly certain I am an INFJ; sure, I can reason through things and be quite logical, but that's my need for order driving me to come to a conclusion that reckons with my inner value system.
I am deeply affected by others' words and their perceived opinion of me. I am (more importantly) deeply moved to help people and make the world, somehow, better.
I know several individuals (family, friends, and coworkers) who have a prevalent Intuition (both introverted and extroverted) function, but I can't clearly type anyone in my life who is INFJ (like me). In fact, I seem to be surrounded by Sensing types: my mother, my sister, my husband, my roommate, two of my besties...
My closest friend in the world, my bosom buddy, is an INFP, and she gives me hope that I am not alone, or totally other, different. Sometimes I feel we are the only ones that "get" each other.
Anyway, the differences in personality between my husband and I cause quite a few fights, but so far we are very grateful for our differences. We are relatively young in our relationship (married 2 years in July, together 4 years in August), which is scary (what if this is only temporary? What if he falls out of love with me? we are too different to still be attractive to each other if we fall out of love), but we have a very faithful commitment to continue loving each other, including forgiving and forgetting (as best as possible).
Right now my "problem" is our "roommate"; she's a friend of my sister's that roomed with my parents. My ISFJ mother had a falling out with her, and pretty much kicked her out. So, to help her out, she moved in with us. She is an ESFP.
She is SO chatty. At first (that is, before she moved in and through the first week or two), I didn't mind the chattiness because i thought she was a real friend. Then, one night after a particularly stressful week (my mother landed in the hospital for heart issues, which we were previously unaware of), i finally took a break and she said she would come hang out with me. I called her to hang out when i got to the destination, but she never checked her phone, and consequently, i hung out all by myself in a crowded restaurant on a Saturday night.
It turned out okay that I was by myself, although some strangers sat at the same table as me and it was obviously awkward and claustrophobic. But this little incident was a wake-up call that this girl is a family acquaintance, not my personal friend. It doesn't matter how much personal information she knows about me or how much about who she is I know and perceive, we are not friends.
Since then, she hasn't got the hint. For the most part, we don't see each other because she has a night job and i a day job. But if I stay up too late, she does come home and wants to chat it up. All I say in response is "uh huh", the nod and smile, a million times, occasionally throwing in a tidbit myself. But she can go on and on...
I dont want her to move out, and i don't hate her. She just really annoys me. Why does she have to talk to me? Why does she have to share everything? She talks about her role model a lot (a female evangelist) or about church/Christianity-related stuff. But I am not a practicing Christian anymore. She knows this; she just doesn't get any hints.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to politely, kindly,and without souring things, shut her up?
***I should clarify that I am a full-time working mom and very rarely get to hang out with any friends, and very rarely take any personal time for myself. As an IN, I often feel I am drowning in hopelessness,nothingness. I don't get to reflect, I rarely get to recharge, and I even rarer are deep, meaningful, affirming conversations with friends (in particular, because two of my closest friends, including my INFP bosom buddy, live 4 hours away; my other closest friend, lives in the same town as me, but has medical problems and works full-time).