Hi you guys, this is my first message to this forum. I'm from Finland so my English isn't that great but let's have a go at it.
I've been doing a few different MBTI-tests and read a lot of the type descriptions trying to figure out which of the types I am. First test result I got was INFJ and now I have been getting INTJ. I guess I'm not that much of a feeler, but my understanding of emotions is outstanding. I rationalize my feelings and work with them very well. But I make my decisions based on my rational thinking. I'm very quiet and shy person, but when I'm with loved ones I enjoy intellectual conversations. I express feelings to some degree but only if they seem appropriate. Sometimes I have a strong urge to show my feelings but simultaneously it feels bad to open up. I keep thinking what will happen if I show too much emotion, are my feelings somehow weird and how is the other person going to react. Normally once I get to the stage where I am comfortable to show my feelings the situation has already changed. In a long term relationship I say "I love you" every day to my loved one and mean it but that's about it. I don't like public displays of affection and I sometimes forget to show I care. People in general see me as being cold and distant even though I am very interested in people. I observe people closely and I see their soul. This is why I identify with INFJ.
I am a thinker and my thinking is very objective. I get into knowing all the facts before I make my mind about something. I try to find out what is actually going on in the world and my emotions don't get in the way of my free thinking. I have my own inner world though which has mystical fairytale quality to it. I have many fantasies and utopias going on inside my head and they comfort me. This is why I seem not to be in any contact with the outside world. I often times don't get any stimuli from the outside world. Nothing enters me. It's a retreat. This worries my loved ones sometimes. I have few special interests that keep me wrapped around them, doing deep thinking and educating myself on these topics. Once I get very fired up, nothing can stop me. I can go on for hours on end doing research. This leaves me sometimes very tired since I neglet my bodily needs. Forget to drink, eat or sleep. This is also when I withdraw from other people and it can go on for weeks. It takes a lot to be my friend since I don't keep in contact.
I'm also very creative and artistic. I draw, paint and take pictures. I also write poetry which has more of an intellectual approach on things rather than just beauty of the words and ideas combined. I think I'll just have to express my thoughts this way or otherwise I am going to explode. I love deep conversations about ideas and theories with my boyfriend. He's INTJ so we get along great. We have a wonderful deep relationship. But we have one problem. He's never ready to share his feelings. He does not say to that he loves me. But I can see into his soul and I know for a fact that he cares about me deeply. Sometimes it would be nice to hear it though.
My parents are INTJ and INFP. My brother is INFP. I get along with them very well and understand them. Sometimes my family members are worried about me not showing my emotions or not being in the present or that I don't care about them because I seem cold. I give them advice and I'm often their go to girl when they have problems. Mostly they ask for rational approach to their problems. When I'm being empathetic I don't get my own feelings involved, I just navigate with what I understand about their feelings. I ask a lot of questions to get the idea. I truly get people. Even when they are lying to themselves I can see behind their masks. They don't always like what I have to say about their issues. This is a problem I keep having with people. I want to be honest but I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Mostly I am honest and then when the conflict starts to emerge I escape into my head and freeze. I get very quiet in fights. Actually I don't fight back. I just let people vent their frustration and when it's over I say what I have to say about it. I don't even like to argue. This is mostly because I think most people don't know how to argue properly. Their arguments and way of saying them is often stupid. So I don't bother with it.
What else... I don't like small talk, social games, gatherings of many people, being fake, dishonesty, cruelty, lack of empathy and compassion, television and stupid people. I just don't get along with people, people don't get me and I find them stupid. If I'm being honest this the case in majority of times I try to be with people. I have few wonderful friends though. And even when people seem to be stupid I'm still interested in them and I want to help them? This is weird.
Okay, I probably sai enough already. I think this is not going to go well, you people don't understand me any better that I do myself and there's no point to this. But I'm trying to be hopeful. I appreciate any answer I get. Thanks for reading and have a good one.
I've been doing a few different MBTI-tests and read a lot of the type descriptions trying to figure out which of the types I am. First test result I got was INFJ and now I have been getting INTJ. I guess I'm not that much of a feeler, but my understanding of emotions is outstanding. I rationalize my feelings and work with them very well. But I make my decisions based on my rational thinking. I'm very quiet and shy person, but when I'm with loved ones I enjoy intellectual conversations. I express feelings to some degree but only if they seem appropriate. Sometimes I have a strong urge to show my feelings but simultaneously it feels bad to open up. I keep thinking what will happen if I show too much emotion, are my feelings somehow weird and how is the other person going to react. Normally once I get to the stage where I am comfortable to show my feelings the situation has already changed. In a long term relationship I say "I love you" every day to my loved one and mean it but that's about it. I don't like public displays of affection and I sometimes forget to show I care. People in general see me as being cold and distant even though I am very interested in people. I observe people closely and I see their soul. This is why I identify with INFJ.
I am a thinker and my thinking is very objective. I get into knowing all the facts before I make my mind about something. I try to find out what is actually going on in the world and my emotions don't get in the way of my free thinking. I have my own inner world though which has mystical fairytale quality to it. I have many fantasies and utopias going on inside my head and they comfort me. This is why I seem not to be in any contact with the outside world. I often times don't get any stimuli from the outside world. Nothing enters me. It's a retreat. This worries my loved ones sometimes. I have few special interests that keep me wrapped around them, doing deep thinking and educating myself on these topics. Once I get very fired up, nothing can stop me. I can go on for hours on end doing research. This leaves me sometimes very tired since I neglet my bodily needs. Forget to drink, eat or sleep. This is also when I withdraw from other people and it can go on for weeks. It takes a lot to be my friend since I don't keep in contact.
I'm also very creative and artistic. I draw, paint and take pictures. I also write poetry which has more of an intellectual approach on things rather than just beauty of the words and ideas combined. I think I'll just have to express my thoughts this way or otherwise I am going to explode. I love deep conversations about ideas and theories with my boyfriend. He's INTJ so we get along great. We have a wonderful deep relationship. But we have one problem. He's never ready to share his feelings. He does not say to that he loves me. But I can see into his soul and I know for a fact that he cares about me deeply. Sometimes it would be nice to hear it though.
My parents are INTJ and INFP. My brother is INFP. I get along with them very well and understand them. Sometimes my family members are worried about me not showing my emotions or not being in the present or that I don't care about them because I seem cold. I give them advice and I'm often their go to girl when they have problems. Mostly they ask for rational approach to their problems. When I'm being empathetic I don't get my own feelings involved, I just navigate with what I understand about their feelings. I ask a lot of questions to get the idea. I truly get people. Even when they are lying to themselves I can see behind their masks. They don't always like what I have to say about their issues. This is a problem I keep having with people. I want to be honest but I don't want to hurt peoples feelings. Mostly I am honest and then when the conflict starts to emerge I escape into my head and freeze. I get very quiet in fights. Actually I don't fight back. I just let people vent their frustration and when it's over I say what I have to say about it. I don't even like to argue. This is mostly because I think most people don't know how to argue properly. Their arguments and way of saying them is often stupid. So I don't bother with it.
What else... I don't like small talk, social games, gatherings of many people, being fake, dishonesty, cruelty, lack of empathy and compassion, television and stupid people. I just don't get along with people, people don't get me and I find them stupid. If I'm being honest this the case in majority of times I try to be with people. I have few wonderful friends though. And even when people seem to be stupid I'm still interested in them and I want to help them? This is weird.
Okay, I probably sai enough already. I think this is not going to go well, you people don't understand me any better that I do myself and there's no point to this. But I'm trying to be hopeful. I appreciate any answer I get. Thanks for reading and have a good one.
Welcome!