INFJ Mom ENTJ/P Son

As a slave, amirite?

 

Hi and welcome. You're a very good writer, I enjoyed your post.
She may not have been lying as lots of people are on the J/P line.
Calling you manipulative might have been a knee jerk reaction to something you said or the way you said it. Maybe it was something she didn't want to hear.
Try not to take it personally when she says she's worn out and blames it on your energy. It's not a flaw or a fault of your own. INFJ's take on a lot, sometimes quite quickly, and rather than overload and lose the whole gist they will need time to process what they've already heard or felt before taking on more. At least that's the way it is for me. Does she seem to do it too abruptly or in a hurtful way?
My 15 year old daughter can overload me and I can see the hurt on her face sometimes when I tell her it's time to stop talking, no matter how gently I put it. I'm still trying to figure out my daughter's type but I think she might be ESTJ. We've had a much better relationship since I've relaxed and accepted our differences.

 

If she understands the types properly then I don't believe anyone is in a better position to type her as it has to do with how we think and feel, these are things that no one else can ever really see. But if she doesn't understand the types then mistakes are easy to make. Saying she lied about this sounds strange to me, I'm unsure why anyone would mistype themselves on purpose, am I missing something here?

Manipulation is quite subjective in my opinion, I do many things with an end result in mind that can manipulate others along the way, I'd rather not consider myself manupulitive because I don't go about trying to get people to do things that will be detremental to them or cause problems but I'm sure others would not see the grey area so easily.

That's a tough one, the only solution in my mind is to reserve those conversations for your friends or family that will be able to relate in the same manner. It sounds less type related and more individual to me though.

I'll bow out here as this is better coming from the INFJs about the place

But hey? there are people out there who enjoy firing others? How odd, that is one of the harder things I have to do, whilst necessary I certainly don't enjoy it.