Hi, I have a weird situation and I feel it doesn't happen often enough so I have to discuss it and seek advise.
So...I met this guy, and we were drinking and hanging out the first day we met each other. Something about him - I dunno - I could FEEL how connected we were. Like, we hated everything about everyone we knew but only because we KNOW what they could amount to, what we see in them that they don't think we are aware of (shady characteristics, bad habits, etc..), and how we can read into everything so much that we almost seem to think its not real. (Because its amazing how far in depth our "analysis" of something can be, its so real it CANT be real...But it is lol.) There were a whole bunch of other common INFJ qualities he had as well but I won't get into all of that.. I also understand this wasn't exactly written the best way it could be, but I hope you know what I'm trying to say.
Well anyway, I feel like the first night was great. I felt like I met someone who FINALLY was on the same level as me. Or almost, because there's a minor age difference and we clearly were in different stages of life and have different levels of maturity/understanding. (I'm 20, he's 25.) The third day I asked him to take the Myer Briggs test, because I wanted to figure out if he was what I thought he was. (INFJ was my initial assumption, keep in mind.) I just wanted to make sure I was right, because sometimes its a little tricky to analyze someone after meeting them two other times.
He took it! AND I WAS RIGHT!!!!!!!!! I felt so happy, it felt great to know someone who was similar as me. I sincerely felt alone ! So yeah, we hung out more..and I've came to realize that he is the BAD INFJ. Its sickening . He's manipulative, he tried to play mind games with me, tried seducing me, etc... Keep in mind none of this worked because I knew what he was doing, and he also is highly cynical. He keeps telling me he could hurt someone severely simply by speaking to them. He proudly admits he can convince others that they're bad people, even when they're not, just to make them depressed / suicidal / hate themselves.
I mean I understand that trait can be used for DEFENSE mechanisms, especially when it's deserved. But I don't think it should be used unless they ARE bad..not just because a person did something he didn't approve of. :/
INFJ's have different faces, I totally get that, just as any other personality type. If we were all the same INFJ then we wouldn't have such a hard time distinguishing which ones are/aren't like us. What I need to know is , is there always going to be a bad clash with INFJ + INFJ relationships as a whole?? Are we going to think we all have secret and manipulative motives regardless of who they are to us , just because we all know how tricky we can get?
So...I met this guy, and we were drinking and hanging out the first day we met each other. Something about him - I dunno - I could FEEL how connected we were. Like, we hated everything about everyone we knew but only because we KNOW what they could amount to, what we see in them that they don't think we are aware of (shady characteristics, bad habits, etc..), and how we can read into everything so much that we almost seem to think its not real. (Because its amazing how far in depth our "analysis" of something can be, its so real it CANT be real...But it is lol.) There were a whole bunch of other common INFJ qualities he had as well but I won't get into all of that.. I also understand this wasn't exactly written the best way it could be, but I hope you know what I'm trying to say.
Well anyway, I feel like the first night was great. I felt like I met someone who FINALLY was on the same level as me. Or almost, because there's a minor age difference and we clearly were in different stages of life and have different levels of maturity/understanding. (I'm 20, he's 25.) The third day I asked him to take the Myer Briggs test, because I wanted to figure out if he was what I thought he was. (INFJ was my initial assumption, keep in mind.) I just wanted to make sure I was right, because sometimes its a little tricky to analyze someone after meeting them two other times.
He took it! AND I WAS RIGHT!!!!!!!!! I felt so happy, it felt great to know someone who was similar as me. I sincerely felt alone ! So yeah, we hung out more..and I've came to realize that he is the BAD INFJ. Its sickening . He's manipulative, he tried to play mind games with me, tried seducing me, etc... Keep in mind none of this worked because I knew what he was doing, and he also is highly cynical. He keeps telling me he could hurt someone severely simply by speaking to them. He proudly admits he can convince others that they're bad people, even when they're not, just to make them depressed / suicidal / hate themselves.
I mean I understand that trait can be used for DEFENSE mechanisms, especially when it's deserved. But I don't think it should be used unless they ARE bad..not just because a person did something he didn't approve of. :/
INFJ's have different faces, I totally get that, just as any other personality type. If we were all the same INFJ then we wouldn't have such a hard time distinguishing which ones are/aren't like us. What I need to know is , is there always going to be a bad clash with INFJ + INFJ relationships as a whole?? Are we going to think we all have secret and manipulative motives regardless of who they are to us , just because we all know how tricky we can get?
