I am going to make this post short and simple, as I am asking a simple question. I have been best friends with an ENFJ for 7 years now. Over the years, I have become much more extroverted, and she much more introverted. It is almost as though we complement each other, like together we make a whole. I don't know if it is because we grew up together (starting from age 14 to now), or if it really is because her extroverted side is the perfect complement to my introverted side. On another note, she is the only one that truly feels as deeply as I do, the only difference is that she is just much better and at ease at expressing herself. In this way, I've learned to not let people walk all over me as much, and she has learned from my more calm and relaxed demeanor that not everything needs to be a confrontation, or is even worth her effort to get angry/sad/emotional about. I was wondering if it is the NFJ at play... I've never been able to connect with someone so deeply, trust someone so much, and actually have them UNDERSTAND my craziness and feelings. I can get really intense and so can she, but we love that intensity in the other and we know how to deal with it, whereas most people would not want nor know how to deal with it. And she is also the first friend that I've felt gives instead of taking. Many of my other friendships I've noticed that I give everything to this person while they won't reciprocate anything in return (emotions, love, etc). We both are givers, which I will say is an amazing dynamic in a friendship. I will admit that there have been MANY hardships in our friendship, more so than hardships in other friendships, but that goes along with every friendship ever. In conclusion, is the ENFJ the perfect match for the INFJ? Why do you think so if you do, or why don't you think so?
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