Fellow INFJs, at the beginning of your prior "successful" (progressed to long-term) relationships, did you have strong feelings early on or did feelings only develop after spending a significant amount of time with that person?
How can you tell whether a lack of "butterflies" is due to unfamiliarity or to incompatibility?
I ask because I have only experienced the former--crushing heavily on women initially before pursuing them. I avoid or terminate romantic relations with women that I do not initially/quickly feel anything with, but I am cross-checking wisdom of this--wondering maybe I need to give more chances and more time.
How can you tell whether a lack of "butterflies" is due to unfamiliarity or to incompatibility?
I ask because I have only experienced the former--crushing heavily on women initially before pursuing them. I avoid or terminate romantic relations with women that I do not initially/quickly feel anything with, but I am cross-checking wisdom of this--wondering maybe I need to give more chances and more time.
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