INFJ a bit insecure about her ENTP boyfriend

I'm not seeing the problem. Too much context not enough problem.

I've reread this twice and I can't see the problem.

 

bring up novel ideas, be open to adventures, and be spontaneous in bed...

it's not as if novelty requires a new woman every day.

 

An infj having trust issues with an ENTP. *gasp* I'm shocked! Shocked, I tell you!

I've got no advice. ENTP dudes make me feel uncharacteristically insecure too. But that's the slightly thrilling part, in a weird way. Although, I'd probably never date one seriously. I don't think they bring out the best in me, to be frank. I think that's important. I don't like feeling that vulnerable either. Its exhausting. Now INTPs on the other hand or INTJs.... Yum!

 

There in lies the problem.lol

 

As you've allready discovered, ENTP's are a hidden gem of love and romance... but we are fickle.

For me, it's the 2-3 month area where I start questioning the relationship. If the girl I'm with can't keep my attention during that time, I'll end up leaving her. You need to keep his attention untill it is turned fully on you.

ENTP's allways have their mind everywhere, dabbling in all thoughts and ideas. Once something sticks in their mind though, they HAVE to see the whole thing through or else be compleatly pissed off about not getting what they wanted done. The same thing applies to relationships. He will continue to want to look for more girls and play, but if you can get him to turn his attention fully onto you, and in latter time KEEP that attention turned to you, you will have a highly devoted and loving man.

I hope some of what I'm saying is making sense. If you want anything more in-depth, just ask.

 

Might I speak from the perspective of a male regarding this situation?

I'm not a social person by nature, but I've been with enough women in short spans of times to be labelled as "easy" or "a player" but those too ignorant to get to know me. Despite this, I have always been sincere, courteous, and respectful to whomever I have been with. I have never cheated on anyone, abused their trust, or dropped them for another woman.

The point I'm trying to make it... it's a matter of trust. Communication is the key in any relationship.

The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is to tell him about your insecurity regarding this. You will really want to emphasise to him, quietly and calmly, that the issue isn't with him, but your own personal self-doubt. If he's a half decent guy, he will do his best to reassure you that he won't do something like that.

It's up to you to trust him afterwards though.

 

I think, the longer the relationship, the more stable it gets, when it's entp/infj, since we're always improving things, trying to make things better. And I fully understand what you're talking about, the insecurity in dating someone like that. If we get their trust and get them to communicate, it's great, but it takes time to make it happen. Don't be too needy about it, but if you really need them to open up to you and have trouble trusting them, you might need to drill in and make them open up.

I've had plenty of relationships, but I've never cheated on anyone or so, .. and I'm still really insecure about the person I'm dating, if I like them, I really like them, and it hurts to see if they don't feel the same way or feel things as strongly.