i've had a chronic health issue that, up until now, has been annoying but not debilitating or dangerous.
this week, my health issue decided to change its mind. i got serious anemia, and had to have a blood transfusion. and i was just told that my condition turned to cancerous. things are going to happen pretty fast now. i will have surgery in about two weeks. (luckily this type of cancer often is resolved just by surgery alone).
i was told i would need someone with me the first week home, and others to help me out for about six weeks afterward.
whew! i often have trouble asking for or accepting others' help. i wondered if anyone else has the same thing?
i worry about my helpers feelings bored, overwhelmed or put upon. i worry about being entertaining enough or talkative enough because when i'm not feeling well i tend to "fold in". i think it's related to the empathy thing because i'm often more tuned in to what others might be feeling and wanting to assist them to be comfortable.
i feel like it's kind of selfish or silly to be stressed out about others wanting to help me. i know i am really really lucky to have such loving family, friends and coworkers. i think i want to think of some things people can do for me that aren't as much "in person" (like maybe shopping for me or freezing me a meal or something). i do have some family members and friends who are used to my quiet ways who i can ask about the in person stuff.
this week, my health issue decided to change its mind. i got serious anemia, and had to have a blood transfusion. and i was just told that my condition turned to cancerous. things are going to happen pretty fast now. i will have surgery in about two weeks. (luckily this type of cancer often is resolved just by surgery alone).
i was told i would need someone with me the first week home, and others to help me out for about six weeks afterward.
whew! i often have trouble asking for or accepting others' help. i wondered if anyone else has the same thing?
i worry about my helpers feelings bored, overwhelmed or put upon. i worry about being entertaining enough or talkative enough because when i'm not feeling well i tend to "fold in". i think it's related to the empathy thing because i'm often more tuned in to what others might be feeling and wanting to assist them to be comfortable.
i feel like it's kind of selfish or silly to be stressed out about others wanting to help me. i know i am really really lucky to have such loving family, friends and coworkers. i think i want to think of some things people can do for me that aren't as much "in person" (like maybe shopping for me or freezing me a meal or something). i do have some family members and friends who are used to my quiet ways who i can ask about the in person stuff.
