How would you react to someone you are dating (long term) asking you, "Why are you with me?" after an argument?
How would you react to someone you are dating (long term) asking you, "Why are you with me?" after an argument?
I think it's a pretty reasonable question. And it really depends on the length of the relationship, the comfort level with the partner, the reason for the disagreement, etc. If someone feels as if the person they've been with has only been with them for reasons that are quite different than what was expected then it's makes that person question. If the argument in some way makes the person question whether or not their partner truly understands them, then they may wonder whether this person really knew them at all and really understood who they were, and if they didn't understand and appreciate that, then why would this person continue the relationship after all this time.
yeah but it's implying they don't want to be with you.. or they don't think you want to be with them. and after an argument unless the argument is about breaking up, it's like you're bringing that idea to the forefront. i wouldn't mind if they asked it at any other time, just not straight after a fight about something else.
yeah but it's implying they don't want to be with you.. or they don't think you want to be with them. and after an argument unless the argument is about breaking up, it's like you're bringing that idea to the forefront. i wouldn't mind if they asked it at any other time, just not straight after a fight about something else.
I don't know. This is a very broad topic and there is very little information available. It so depends on the nuances of the situation.
How would you react to someone you are dating (long term) asking you, "Why are you with me?" after an argument?
But suppose this is just one argument among many they've had, and it's the last straw. Well, if the person feels they're being treated unfairly, taken for granted, or mistreated in some other way, then it does beg the question, doesn't it?
But suppose this is just one argument among many they've had, and it's the last straw. Well, if the person feels they're being treated unfairly, taken for granted, or mistreated in some other way, then it does beg the question, doesn't it?
How would you react to someone you are dating (long term) asking you, "Why are you with me?" after an argument?
even if they feel that way just saying "why are you with me" is passive aggressive and won't really solve anything. it's probably better to directly say what you think, that you feel hurt or that you don't think the relationship is going to work.
The question could open up a discusssion about the real source of the conflict.
First, I would answer their question.
Then, if they were open to receiving me, I would ask them why they had asked me the question - what need of theirs were they trying to meet in the asking of it.
cheers,
Ian
The question could open up a discusssion about the real source of the conflict.