This thread is not so much a query for advice as it is an attempt to understand how others deal with incompetent jerks and whether or not there is much correlation with one's personality type and the actions they take, how they feel, etc.
I'm talking about people who treat others like shit, especially when it comes to areas/ideas they are average or below average in.
For example, at work, there are a few people I know that are lazy and haven't developed their skills proficiently for how long they've been there, and they generally throw people under the bus, take credit for others' work, etc. This sometimes is caught by management if it's overt enough, but some slip under the radar. I usually am very transparent with my bosses about these people, and my complaints are generally well-received, but those people still piss me off. When I find myself in a group in which there are too many of these people, I generally jump ship.
When I meet these kinds of people outside of work, I just ignore them and avoid situations in which I'd have to interact with them.
On the other hand, I have some friends (usually INTPs) that can be dicks when it comes to areas that they know about, but it has pushed me to be more deliberate when speaking about things and to educate myself better, so I am less bothered by these people (i.e. competent jerks). They are still great friends when it comes to exchanging ideas.
Thoughts? Do you guys (INFJs and others) deal with these kinds of people differently? Does your perceived competence of the person in question matter? How does it make you feel?
I'm talking about people who treat others like shit, especially when it comes to areas/ideas they are average or below average in.
For example, at work, there are a few people I know that are lazy and haven't developed their skills proficiently for how long they've been there, and they generally throw people under the bus, take credit for others' work, etc. This sometimes is caught by management if it's overt enough, but some slip under the radar. I usually am very transparent with my bosses about these people, and my complaints are generally well-received, but those people still piss me off. When I find myself in a group in which there are too many of these people, I generally jump ship.
When I meet these kinds of people outside of work, I just ignore them and avoid situations in which I'd have to interact with them.
On the other hand, I have some friends (usually INTPs) that can be dicks when it comes to areas that they know about, but it has pushed me to be more deliberate when speaking about things and to educate myself better, so I am less bothered by these people (i.e. competent jerks). They are still great friends when it comes to exchanging ideas.
Thoughts? Do you guys (INFJs and others) deal with these kinds of people differently? Does your perceived competence of the person in question matter? How does it make you feel?
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