Is this a necessary part of a healthy relationship? Will it inevitably happen with time?
- I am not sure it's necessary to know everything about your partner in a relationship. I do agree that mystery can keep it interesting, but this doesn't mean you shouldn't communicate with your partner. Depending on the type of mystery, problems can arise because a partner may feel betrayed by somethings not being revealed. Each couple is different though. What's a good amount of openness for one couple may be too little or too much for another. I think it varies. I prefer openness that way I don't have to guess. On the other hand, I like people who keep a little something for themselves- makes them interesting when they don't make everything about themselves immediately available for discovery. I guess after being with a partner for a long time, you will lose some of that mystery and possibly romance but in the end, it depends on what you want in the relationship over the long term. There are couples who know everything about each other and that gives them a stronger and deeper love for each other. Others, find themselves feeling more distance the more they know about their partner. Depends on the person and their personality. If someone feels forced to reveal things about themselves before they are ready, this can create a sense of discomfort and distrust. But not revealing much and expecting your partner to be happy with that, even when your partner deserves to know, can also be a huge problem.