Everyone's confidant and no one's friend.

What do you mean by scarecrows?

 

Well, the purpose of a scarecrow is to scare crows away. so......... let's assume they are meant to scare people away in this case

 

Ahh...I didn't know if they meant something similar to straw men though.
Like, they never opened up to people would but would by analogy or a lesser version.

Being disingenuous basically.

I still don't know what they did, though. Even your elaboration doesn't add much.

 

From her description it seems she isn't very accepting.

 

This is a lesson I've learned quite concretely in the past year.

I definitely have started speaking up more, and I've lost a friend or 2. When I think back to those relationships, I realize I never made my voice heard in the beginning, and when I started to, the dynamics changed to allow me to see we weren't good as friends anyway. It was no one's fault in particular, just how we learn and grow.

Nothing wrong with being an assertive person and still being able to have compassion for others.

 

Yup, happens to me all the time... Before I used to feel kind of honoured that someone would trust me with such private secrets but now I am starting to think, what's the point? It is quite exhausting and makes me feel quite lonely afterwards but... It is not that I want to be alone, I guess I just don't know how to involve myself more with other people's lives so that they would see me more as a full-time friend?

 

[MENTION=9350]sentientsixpence[/MENTION] I think you need friends who are around your level of intelligence. I get the feeling people feel stupid around you... And most people have big egos which would hurt because of this.

 

Yes, I experience this too. Everyone comes to me for advice or to bare their heart and be comforted but I find there is no one like that for me. I also find that most of the women friends I have tend to be younger than I am, these days, and seem to view me as an alternate mother figure. Which is lovely, and I do love being there to hear their troubles and offer what help can, but I used to have FRIENDS in days past and I miss that.