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I found this article online about type to type relationships and I thought the description of the type of attraction between INFJs and ENFPs was delightful. I'm married to an ENFP and I totally get what she's saying. I thought I'd share it with you guys.
Beebe introduces another complex layer. He states that seduction most often occurs when a person meets their favorite process as the 5th process in another person. He indicates there is an overwhelming attraction between two processes in this combination: 1 + 5.
Let me clarify with an example. An INFJ’s favorite cognitive process is introverted intuition. Their 5th process is its attitudinal opposite: extraverted intuition. A difference of direction here typically generates conflict, since what one person shares with the world is what the other person uses in the inner realm (see Figure 8).
According to Beebe, when dominant introverted intuition encounters dominant extraverted intuition, it is as if they magically combine to form a “giant intuition” together and characterizes an instance where opposites overwhelmingly attract. Beebe suggests this compelling attraction is far more common than the inverse relationship previously described, and claims the sensation can be highly seductive. I know what he means; I was in an intoxicating relationship of that sort for several years.
There's other type-to-type matching in the free article and INFJs are often used as an example, so it's worth a read for non-ENFP daters too. ;D
Here's the link: http://www.typeinsights.com/FreeArticles/Relationships.pdf
Although the same article also states that ENFPs and INFJs are also attitude-antagonistic and prone to fighting. I obviously disagree in that at least in my particular case experience has proven otherwise to a remarkable degree. Anyone else have experiences of ENFP INFJ match?
Beebe introduces another complex layer. He states that seduction most often occurs when a person meets their favorite process as the 5th process in another person. He indicates there is an overwhelming attraction between two processes in this combination: 1 + 5.
Let me clarify with an example. An INFJ’s favorite cognitive process is introverted intuition. Their 5th process is its attitudinal opposite: extraverted intuition. A difference of direction here typically generates conflict, since what one person shares with the world is what the other person uses in the inner realm (see Figure 8).
According to Beebe, when dominant introverted intuition encounters dominant extraverted intuition, it is as if they magically combine to form a “giant intuition” together and characterizes an instance where opposites overwhelmingly attract. Beebe suggests this compelling attraction is far more common than the inverse relationship previously described, and claims the sensation can be highly seductive. I know what he means; I was in an intoxicating relationship of that sort for several years.
There's other type-to-type matching in the free article and INFJs are often used as an example, so it's worth a read for non-ENFP daters too. ;D
Here's the link: http://www.typeinsights.com/FreeArticles/Relationships.pdf
Although the same article also states that ENFPs and INFJs are also attitude-antagonistic and prone to fighting. I obviously disagree in that at least in my particular case experience has proven otherwise to a remarkable degree. Anyone else have experiences of ENFP INFJ match?
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We lack on conscious communication but agree on goals and what is the essence of the universe, life and everything. He doesn't question my creative ideas because he can somehow understand the essence what I'm representing and communicating and I don't have to worry about him having incompatible values. I mean he's family and history sentimental in a warm loving way. I'm more detached and more general principles. He acts instantly, I'm more action within. I do the planning. He says I'm the brain and he's the brawn. ;D When we're fine within ourselves personally everything's a dance and when either has a personal problem it gets a little more difficult because the communication styles are different, but so far the mutual respect has ensured civil conduct ;D. My big thing is the NF values shared. But it's a preference. ESTPs and INFJs I find have great communication but value differences are the issue there. Sometimes an INFJ picks a thinker and then the F T difference makes one irrational and one moody. ;D
