Hello !
Being an INFJ male myself, I realize HOW MUCH INFJ are complex only now that I have to deal with an INFJ girl.
Here's the story :
There's an INFJ male (ME) who met an ENFP girl who became his girlfriend. Unfortunately, the ENFP girl had an INFJ best girl friend who had a crush on the INFJ male. A serious crush. I shouldn't know it but I know it. (And she doesn't know I knew it)
The INFJ girl then travelled (something planned for ages) for six months so I didn't see her, and then she came back.
Maybe she forgot me during this time ? Maybe not ? I really don't know.
At first I thought that the situation would be complicated because I often see the INFJ girl since she's my girlfriend best friend, but in fact she was really cool in real life everytime I saw her. She was smiling, happy to see me, very welcoming and funny. I was happy because I truly wanted to be accepted by her as a friend and I thought it wouldn't be possible.
BUT these last days, I had to talk with the INFJ girl on Facebook to organize an event (group travel with my girlfriend and all her friends) and she became really strange. It was like she was snubing me, just like we never talked and laughed together before. She takes ages to reply to my messages (hours), and she almost talks like I was a stranger, without smileys etc. Almost like a corporate discussion. Thanks of Facebook, I also saw that often she connects several times and waits 30 minutes before actually reading my message, and then she often waits like 20 minutes to answer. But she was the one who talked to me at the beginning !
I'm so confused because I thought I was becoming her friend and I don't understand now. In "real life" she's smiling and seems happy, and on Facebook I feel like I'm unwanted. It's important for me because I can't just give up, she's my girlfriend best friend and I don't want to create trouble.
I'm an INFJ myself so I know that I know nothing about what she really thinks. That's a terrible feeling.
Of course I never wanted to date her and I could just ignore her, but I feel responsable of what happened and I'm not sure what I should do.
I could use some guidance or opinions.
Thank you !
Being an INFJ male myself, I realize HOW MUCH INFJ are complex only now that I have to deal with an INFJ girl.
Here's the story :
There's an INFJ male (ME) who met an ENFP girl who became his girlfriend. Unfortunately, the ENFP girl had an INFJ best girl friend who had a crush on the INFJ male. A serious crush. I shouldn't know it but I know it. (And she doesn't know I knew it)
The INFJ girl then travelled (something planned for ages) for six months so I didn't see her, and then she came back.
Maybe she forgot me during this time ? Maybe not ? I really don't know.
At first I thought that the situation would be complicated because I often see the INFJ girl since she's my girlfriend best friend, but in fact she was really cool in real life everytime I saw her. She was smiling, happy to see me, very welcoming and funny. I was happy because I truly wanted to be accepted by her as a friend and I thought it wouldn't be possible.
BUT these last days, I had to talk with the INFJ girl on Facebook to organize an event (group travel with my girlfriend and all her friends) and she became really strange. It was like she was snubing me, just like we never talked and laughed together before. She takes ages to reply to my messages (hours), and she almost talks like I was a stranger, without smileys etc. Almost like a corporate discussion. Thanks of Facebook, I also saw that often she connects several times and waits 30 minutes before actually reading my message, and then she often waits like 20 minutes to answer. But she was the one who talked to me at the beginning !
I'm so confused because I thought I was becoming her friend and I don't understand now. In "real life" she's smiling and seems happy, and on Facebook I feel like I'm unwanted. It's important for me because I can't just give up, she's my girlfriend best friend and I don't want to create trouble.
I'm an INFJ myself so I know that I know nothing about what she really thinks. That's a terrible feeling.
Of course I never wanted to date her and I could just ignore her, but I feel responsable of what happened and I'm not sure what I should do.
I could use some guidance or opinions.
Thank you !