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People are rude to each other when they are behind a fence, much like a dog. When face to face, most people are decent to one another. I think the problem with modern society is that we’ve come to believe how people are online is how they really are in person which is simply not true. Everybody’s minds contains some degree of darkness but we usually practice a thing called restraint in order to be a decent human being. It’s just when we’re behind a “virtual fence” like social media that for some reason we feel no need to use restraint. Watch the video for exactly how this plays out.

 
lostinthisworld said:
People are rude to each other when they are behind a fence, much like a dog. When face to face, most people are decent to one another. I think the problem with modern society is that we’ve come to believe how people are online is how they really are in person which is simply not true. Everybody’s minds contains some degree of darkness but we usually practice a thing called restraint in order to be a decent human being. It’s just when we’re behind a “virtual fence” like social media that for some reason we feel no need to use restraint. Watch the video for exactly how this plays out.
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People are rude behind each other's backs offline. They act passive-aggressive to each other's faces, too.
Whether people are decent to each other face to face depends on where you live. Some micro cultures are fake-friendly. Some seem rude until you get to know people.
It is true that people behave differently online and offline, but as those two worlds intermesh, there is less of a line.
People's minds contain different degrees of "darkness". Some are more wicked than others. There is no "everybody does this".
Dog behavior and human behavior have similarities but are not the same. Anthropomorphizing animal behavior is an injustice to understanding animals... and people.
Banning social media is extreme. Why not try to control your SM experience more by disengaging, curating your followers, and avoiding posts that cause conflict? Ironically, I spend most of my time on SM following dogs and my experience is just fine.
 
Asa said:
What happened? Are you OK?

People are rude behind each other's backs offline. They act passive-aggressive to each other's faces, too.
Whether people are decent to each other face to face depends on where you live. Some micro cultures are fake-friendly. Some seem rude until you get to know people.
It is true that people behave differently online and offline, but as those two worlds intermesh, there is less of a line.
People's minds contain different degrees of "darkness". Some are more wicked than others. There is no "everybody does this".
Dog behavior and human behavior have similarities but are not the same. Anthropomorphizing animal behavior is an injustice to understanding animals... and people.
Banning social media is extreme. Why not try to control your SM experience more by disengaging, curating your followers, and avoiding posts that cause conflict? Ironically, I spend most of my time on SM following dogs and my experience is just fine.
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I’ll agree about it not being everybody, however still far too many people
 
By and large the prats on social media are the minority. They're simply the more vocal group. There's no reason to want, or even need, to forego 'social media' when all it takes is either making use of the block function, or simply spending a small amount of time on it and as Asa said, 'curating' your experience.
If people are rude or argumentative over things one posts, then what do they expect? There will always be someone that believes or interprets in such a way that is the opposite of yours, and whom will not balk at challenging you. I can't be arsed to deal with such, so I don't have a Twitter account as it is a hellhole and I don't leave comments on any other social media.

Besides, there are many upsides to it too. The most pressing example being how it is social media which is allowing us to gain an insight into the events of Ukraine, and the insights not only into the minds of Ukrainians but Russians too, whom disagree with the invasion.
 
I’ll agree that there is good use of it too but honestly I think it’s mostly bad. The spread of misinformation and the comments section are just way too ugly to justify its existence. Perhaps if the comments section were obliterated and the likes and dislikes done away with it would maybe MAYBE, be okay
 
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Don’t forget the positives, like it can be easier to open up to people and be confident online. And it allows contact where it would be difficult or impossible otherwise. I find YT is mostly a positive place. You get the odd idiot but that happens in real life too.
It is easy to get triggered more easily online and you have to counter that yourself if you have that tendency. The support and opportunities for learning online are amazing. I’m not sure what actually counts as social media. YT? Facebook? I don’t use the latter. Tinder (mean tto say Twitter lol)? Never used it. Instagram? Same, never used it.
Depending on your age, you should also factor that people in general (and more online will be younger generation I guess) tend to be more easily triggered and angry for many reasons. Also, the general culture in the west and maybe wider, is one of a more selfish and narcissistic culture. Just try and avoid arguments unless you enjoy them. That’s the beauty of online, you are in total control.
 
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noisebloom said:
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I think there needs to be a distinction between the technology and the platform.

Instant global communication is incredible. Let's not ban that. However, I did prefer forums before thumbs and karma and all that dopamine addiction shit became unavoidable.

That's what I think is fuelling the worst behaviour on the mainstream platforms. It used to be that 'going viral' was only ever a terrible, humiliating thing that ruined your life and I would like to see a world where that is the case again.
 
lostinthisworld said:
Yes I agree completely
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With me? I didn't actually mean the last sentence but, yeah, the rest of it I broadly agree with.

On reflection, my own habits have changed massively. The first forum I posted on was the Atari forum for RCT3. I went there with a troubleshooting question and then had a mooch around and ended up becoming a regular in the chat section, contributing relatively little to the boards about the game.

Likewise, the MBTI boards here are fairly inactive but that's what brought many people here. I've never seen anyone make a blog their first post, it takes a little time.

The mainstream platforms are first and foremost like the personal homepages of yore. So I figure if you start from narcissism, albeit not pathological narcissism, what is most likely to grow from that?

As opposed to the older social media where a person's first encounter is often seeking help or advice.
 
I'll go further. If we lost all internet services for a decade, the net result would probably be overwhelmingly good.

Instead of online shopping, local retailers would return; lazy four paragraph information would be less available, making whole book library visits the norm; people would have to interact in person; porn would be relegated to seedy bookstores in questionable areas; bullying of vulnerable people and minors couldn't happen as easily (offline bullying is harder to hide); illegal transactions would be far more difficult for criminals; etc.
 
Sometimes Yeah said:
I'll go further. If we lost all internet services for a decade, the net result would probably be overwhelmingly good.

Instead of online shopping, local retailers would return; lazy four paragraph information would be less available, making whole book library visits the norm; people would have to interact in person; porn would be relegated to seedy bookstores in questionable areas; bullying of vulnerable people and minors couldn't happen as easily (offline bullying is harder to hide); illegal transactions would be far more difficult for criminals; etc.
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Before online shopping we still had huge chain stores that people would shop from, mindlessly browsing through malls. Before lazy four paragraph information we had just less information...about anything, and porn has always been and still is popular and largely taboo.
No disagreement about the libraries and the in person interaction. The rest I don't see how the old version was that much better. Certainly doesn't warrant shutting down the internet.
 
niar said:
Before online shopping we still had huge chain stores that people would shop from, mindlessly browsing through malls. Before lazy four paragraph information we had just less information...about anything, and porn has always been and still is popular and largely taboo.
No disagreement about the libraries and the in person interaction. The rest I don't see how the old version was that much better. Certainly doesn't warrant shutting down the internet.
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The internet is more than just social media
 
The internet: not even once
 
niar said:
Before online shopping we still had huge chain stores that people would shop from, mindlessly browsing through malls. Before lazy four paragraph information we had just less information...about anything, and porn has always been and still is popular and largely taboo.
No disagreement about the libraries and the in person interaction. The rest I don't see how the old version was that much better. Certainly doesn't warrant shutting down the internet.
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lostinthisworld said:
The internet is more than just social media
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Yes it’s like a series of porn-filled tubes! And if you don't understand, those tubes can be filled and if they are filled, when you put your message in, it gets in line and it's going to be delayed by anyone that puts into that tube enormous amounts of porn, enormous amounts of porn!
 
lostinthisworld said:
People are rude to each other when they are behind a fence, much like a dog. When face to face, most people are decent to one another. I think the problem with modern society is that we’ve come to believe how people are online is how they really are in person which is simply not true. Everybody’s minds contains some degree of darkness but we usually practice a thing called restraint in order to be a decent human being. It’s just when we’re behind a “virtual fence” like social media that for some reason we feel no need to use restraint. Watch the video for exactly how this plays out.

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Good thing you don't drive around Boston. We'd be cancelling private vehicles.
The middle finger is the morning salute to many. Don't get me started on horns.

I'm sure decades back people were saying the television was the source of all evil.
It's not about the tool, but rather what you do with it.

Yes, rules need to be made and adhered to. The US has a little problem called the first amendment that makes it hard to tell people not to express their feelings, or trollish nature. Still there are ways to protect.
 
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