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    Volatile relationships and when to say good-bye

    I cut someone off who was being slyly manipulative and controlling with me. It got to the point where if she called me on the phone my adrenaline immediately started flowing.. She wanted things her way and wasn't really concerned with my feelings, as long as that happened. It was time to cut...
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    [INFJ] An INFJ on making friends..help!!

    I don't see it as assimilation, more like a chameleon taking on some of a person's mannerisms in an attempt to make them feel at ease. I also think of it as "matching their energy". I think it's aux Fe at work creating harmony and a sense of connection.
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    [INFJ] An INFJ on making friends..help!!

    I see the phrase "determining what happens in my own world" to mean how I view any situation. We all ultimately determine what our thoughts are going to be about anything we perceive. A situation isn't necessarily innately "good" or "bad" but our thinking will make it so. Do I really want to...
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    Definition of Hell based on your type

    The ISFJ one doesn't ring true, because although I'd feel like crap if I were the cause of an argument, ultimately it's up to the people arguing to decide how they respond and their choice to yell. True ISFJ hell would be some sort of permanent damage, physically, mentally, or emotionally, that...
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    Would you rather be wanted or needed?

    Definitely wanted. Needed implies that the person isn't complete within themselves and needs me to fill a void. I'm not willing to accept such responsibility for another's happiness, and neither should I place that burden of "need" on another.
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    Dominant/Tertiary Loops and Common Personality Disorders

    These are all excellent questions. I'd also like to know. I can't find any source material for this article.
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    Hey rawr! *waving back*

    Hey rawr! *waving back*
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    What major events or experiences have changed you?

    My divorce. My husband was a narcissist and an emotional abuser. I went through a couple years of feeling like our dysfunctional relationship was all my fault until I finally woke up and realized I could do much better than someone who treated me like crap and expected me to financially support...
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    The Final Step. Fe or Fi?

    Awareness of other people's reactions and moods sounds like Fe to me. Fe always has radar out for others and is extremely aware of reactions and potential reactions. Harmonious relations and consideration for those around you are very important. The thought of upsetting someone through words or...
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    Doomsday Clock Set at 3 Minutes to Midnight

    Do you think humanity stands a chance of surviving on it’s current path? Surviving, sure, barring a major planet wide catastrophe. Thriving is a different story. I think there will be an even more marked divide between haves and have-nots as the years roll by. What would be your number one...
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    [INFJ] Emotional sponge

    In general I enjoy being helpful and a safe person to talk with when someone has problems or needs a listening ear, but someone calling daily and presenting a monologue with no acknowledgement of anything I want to talk about would be a no go. I'm pretty accommodating but that would be so damn...
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    Corrupt a wish

    Granted, but they are fan-girling over every other Disney princess movie ever made and singing all the princess songs from them, all day, every day. I wish that people would stop being such inconsiderate drivers.
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    Is the INFJ really real?

    MBTI is a marvelous tool indeed to help understand that people not only see the world differently but process information differently, and for me personally to understand why and where I click with some people and clash with others. A friend of mine, upon discovering he was ISFJ as well, asked...
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    Corrupt a wish

    Granted, but you're stuck behind the stinkiest diesel smoke spewing truck for 100 miles and there's nowhere to pass. Phew. I wish I had more friends.
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    The Experience Of Meditation

    In my short meditations my goal is to reach a state of mental quiet, even if only for a few seconds, where my inner thought stream ceases its chatter. It's a sense of relief when I find that place. When the thoughts do intrude (as they always do) I try to detach and let them drift off instead of...