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    How Do You Turn Off Your Mind

    Great question. I find repetitive exercises on a musical instrument help while they're happening. Focusing on my footsteps as I walk outside (in a cemetery or on a hiking trail). I do seem to be able to turn it off when I fall asleep, but I know it's still working because when I wake up, I'm in...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    How strange. I don't know how they even got there. I will see if I can figure it out! Absolutely unintentional. EDITED: Better?
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    What are your favorite healthy ways to engage Se?

    Revisiting this thread, because getting enough Se is probably a lifelong struggle, at least for me. It's especially hard in the winter for me. Lately I've been playing guitar (not something I knew how to do in 2019 when this thread began). Also soaking in a hot bathtub. The physical ritual of...
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    Relationship with your mother

    I don't think there is a correlation, at least not in my case. My mom was loving and kind and I was securely attached from a young age. My trauma came in elementary school through the actions and intentions of peers. I'm still working through C-PTSD related to those peer interactions and a later...
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    Dealing with loss and death

    Loss. I do not have much experience with death. Only my grandmothers, who were more than ready by their own measure to be done with life, and my grandfathers, who were not ready but I was not very close to the process. My parents sheltered me from death, grief, and all that goes with both. I...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    What a rich thread. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, insights, and opinions. Lots of good food for thought. I'm not going to spend time further explaining or defending the friendship that has become the focus of this thread. But I do appreciate all the different kinds of responses it...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    This is not a requirement in my friendships. Sometimes it happens, and when it does, it's like finding a unicorn in the middle of the hardware store. It's not a box that I'm constantly trying to check. I am looking for it, open to it, happy to find it, but I'm not trying to force it to happen...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    I'm assuming no disrespect was meant, but it's not a very nice thing to say. Go catch a jellyfish, yourself.
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    I'm back with one of those dense multi-quote responses and abundant gratitude for all those who have contributed to this thread. This wasn't intended to be a post about my friends' marriage. The reason I included their MBTI types was to pose an illustration that one (an NF) needs something that...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    I've been following along and unable to make time for a proper response but will soon. I am SO grateful to all of you for your helpful (and might I say deep) insights. It's catalyzing important growth in me. I don't mind the tangents -- keep it coming if you have things to say. And @April your...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    Thank you for your responses. After a quick read, what I think I'm getting back here in general is that it's okay (or simple?) to have this type of relationship with someone who is not partnered, but once they have a partner, or if they have a partner, it is best to withdraw or avoide it, or...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    Thanks, Asa! I'm well, in the grand scheme. I hope you are, too. My marriage ended after my ex had a five-year emotional affair in which he completely shut me out and used his (now current) partner to get his emotional needs met (at the time). It was quite unhealthy on all levels, and I didn't...
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    Emotional Intimacy (with non-partner friends)

    This question is specifically for the NFs in the crowd. I have been grappling for awhile with my need for emotionally intimate platonic relationships, and how it seems most people out in the world do not have as deep a need for this as I do, and as I have noticed my NF friends do. I know I'm...
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    How did you feel when the Berlin Wall fell

    I felt quite a thrill when it came down. My friend in Hamburg sent me a little piece of it in the mail. I never visited it, though. I was still a teenager and it was one of those things that seemed so sad and wrong in the world. I had no idea there would be so much more sadness and wrongness to...