Recent content by pandagirl

I agree, but I think part of the problem is that many people aren't willing to spend that time or put in that effort to making the relationships work. People want their needs me without all the work.

I think there are different definitions of "romantic love." I guess most people think of romantic love as passion and feeling that rush, etc. But I can find romance in the little things, like someone remembering how I take my coffee or buying my my favorite ice cream on the way home from work...

To clarify, I meant *romantic* love is fleeting, because it is based on emotions like passion, lust, being "in love." True love, real love, does exist, but it is based on trust, honesty, loyalty and commitment, like you said.

In Western culture, marriage is a romantic institution. People get married because they are in love and and blissfully happy and can't imagine being apart from one another for the rest of their lives! Unfortunately, these reasons aren't enough to actually sustain a life-long relationship, which...

Er, yeah! It was stupid of me. Very unlike me. I think I was trying to act like I didn't care, if that makes any sense. I've apologized for those incidents, and have, for the most part, backed up my words with my actions. He knows I won't lie to him and will always tell him the truth. He did...

I don't know if it's so much that I feel rejected, but my intense desire to understand him and how he thinks, because it is so foreign to me. To me I don't understand how really liking each other + chemistry doesn't equal something great, so I'm trying to comprehend his view on relationships. I...

I think I'm struggling with the fact that I am not *enough* for him. I make him laugh, I make him happy, he thinks I'm so kind and wonderful, I make him want to kiss me. I feel we could be in a committed relationship, when even though he might not be enough for me, I'd be willing to try, because...

Hey CokeNut! Thanks for replying. Your responses are so interesting, it's almost like talking to my ex! It's helping me understand the situation a lot more, so thank you! This is actually a deal we made on our third date. He mentioned to me that he dated his last girlfriend for too long after...

Wow, this was great insight into an ESTP. Just some clarifications: I didn't mention "love" to him at all. The jury was still out on him for me, too. I actually almost broke it off with HIM because I just thought we were too different and I wasn't "feeling it" either. But, as I got to know him...

Hi everyone! I'm new here. Glad to be among other INFJs. :) I recently dated an ESTP. It was an interesting experience. So different, yet so alike. I never had met someone who could match my banter and humor and it was so incredibly enjoyable. The attraction between us wasn't fiery passion or...