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  • Nela
    We have everything! C'mon we're definitely the coolest personality type ;), people find us 'fascinating'! The only problem is that people often don't see us for what we really are until they get to know us well. And that can take a long time. This is especially hard in relationships. We make very good partners and we have a lot to give, but others often don't see these things from the very beginning..

    Falling in love quickly huh? I know exactly what you mean! I had the exact same situation in that respect. I didn't really know this guy at all, but I fell for him very quickly. When I look back on it now, I don't even know why. From the moment you think you feel some kind of a connection, the feeling that this person will 'get' you, that's enough. When we fall in love, we fall hard, we put all our emotions into this, that person is everything, we feel too much,.. should I go on? No wonder this is so hard for us! It's quite irrational sometimes.

    This being said, I hope this turns out well for you. I hope you don't have to be stuck on this point for too long, it does you no good. Anyhow, time will solve this..
    Pristinegirl
    OH that happens to me all the time actually, I fall hard for people in short amount of time too.
    It could depend on many things. I think, it could be that you tend to believe that relationships are more intimate than they actually are (since she had absolutely no clue). Or you could simply find many admirable things about her that you initially idealized, which will then melt your heart.
    Lastly I think that when we fantasize about our loves, we can impact our emotions to the point where they exceed what suits reality.

    Ahh its sucks to break free from a depressing pattern once you are on your way down.

    I feel okay I guess, things could be worse but life is not treating me fair right now. I've graduated, but as I'm 18 so I can't get a job. I'm taking a few courses at uni but it really sucks. Its impersonal, stiff and all grown up. There are different people in every class so its not consistent! :( I'm nostalgic and homesick for the most part I guess.
    Pristinegirl
    Oh I didn't know that! Wow well if theres still a chance then you go fight for her! All you need is just a little patience.. It's ain't over til' the fat lady sings ;)

    That aside, I know what you mean though with getting a state of something great and having it pulled away!! :/
    Nela
    Ah man.. Do I know how you feel! Believe it or not, I've been there myself not so very long ago. You know what it is? You are just madly in love with this girl, and it is frustrating as hell if you don't know where you stand, and if you don't even know if you should keep your hopes up or not. (I'm going to make a whole lot of assumptions right now, so just correct me if I'm wrong). But when I read this I really think I understand how you feel. I had these ups and downs too, I just didn't understand myself anymore. It wasn't until later that I could see it clearly. I'm actually beginning to think that this is a typical INFJ thing.

    Well this girl is probably all you think about right now. Everything that happens with her (or doesn't) probably affects your mood badly. How typical INFJ of us, if one thing sucks, everything sucks, and boink we're depressed. Right? Every stupid little thing can make us feel devastated, especially if it's about something like this. Little things (hoping you are going to see her and you're not for instance) can ruin a day that started perfectly well.. What you need is some clarity about this situation.. And I really hope you get that soon. I can imagine that this is really hard for you.
    Pristinegirl
    Oh it must be so devistating to vision someting wonderful to then have it turn into something similar to that of a nightmare. You have a very vivid imagination right? You described it so well, I almost had a picture painted in my head. And thank you so much for the sweet comment. ^^

    You must really like her alot, which is hard. So obviously you need your mourning time and all the support you can get ofc but in all honesty Larry, you need to get over her as soon as possible because you can only be dragged down so much!
    Nela
    You can you know, I'm fine.. But I'm guessing you won't. Well you can talk to me. Anytime. Otherwise: hang in there. It will get better.
    Nela
    Thanks, it's greatly appreciated. Why are you people so great?! You almost made me cry there, stupid F when I don't want it! Retarded INFJ? I think you are a great person, at least from what I can see here on this forum ;). I hope you know that! Thank you! Well I'm also just a retarded INFJ, but you can talk to me too, if you ever feel the need to.

    And I love that movie too..
    Nela
    No it's fine, you can ask me. Sure you want to know? Because you are not going to be able to say something to cheer me up on this one. Here goes: I heard that someone in my family is very sick, and the prognosis isn't good.. This friggin' hurts!

    I spend my entire day yesterday talking and comforting people and I just... I can't anymore. I want to think about something else so badly but I can't.

    So no I'm not really okay. But I will be. Life goes on right.
    T
    Thanks, I'll look into the titles you gave me :D
    T
    Could you recommend me some good old fashion mafia movies?
    Pristinegirl
    I thought you needed a blissful hope, I knew it would move you :) Believe me I know what you mean, I have been crying to it so many times.
    Pristinegirl
    Stay strong during these hard times Larry! Here is some hope.

    'You may have lost one balloon, but instead you may end up getting a million'
    Nela
    I know! That's why I love 'em! They are so enthusiastic! :m200: However, I'm beginning to develop a slight headache, I think it's them..

    Who said anything about saving anyone? Didn't I just tell you that it's NOT like Indiana Jones? :D

    Oh and I promise you that we (that's me and the jumping monkeys) will never ignore you either. Now everyone's happy!
    Nela
    Oh sorry :). Well I've always been fascinated by prehistoric history, (especially Middle Eastern). It's the place where it all started. The most interesting part for me was how these people, that didn't even have a written language at the time, had their own ways to communicate, and the way they organised their daily lives through pretty compex ritual systems. But most of all I'm interested in what made them make these major decisions, that influenced who we are now and how we live even today. It's really interesting! However a lot of people find in enormously boring. :D

    Plus you definitely get a kick out of finding something that old! And yeah, I must confess this was probably also part of the attraction: it's different, no one else does it, and it's totally useless. :D

    Yeah, now I wouldn't care less about what anyone thinks of what I do, but that was different then. Nah I don't think what you said is arrogant at all, in fact I know exactly what you mean! Must be the force indeed!

    I just realized that I put three monkeys in one message earlier. I'm sorry was that too much for you? :D I'll limit myself to one :m025:
    Nela
    No, it doesn't sound all that bad actually, it's good advice. I also always knew what I wanted to do, more or less, but I decided not to (I know, my brain works in mysterious ways). Also these uhm.. artistic educations are not exactly study fields that most people would recommend. When you're 17 and everyone says to you "you're not going to art school are you??" Well.. Not that archaeology is any better in that respect I know :D. Naive as I was, I thought I was 'safe' with a university degree, and when you finally have that, you realize that it's worth nothing if it's not what you wanted.

    Yeah I need to use the force more! My New Year's resolution for next year! :)

    You.. you.. used a monkey? *gasps* Look at them they are so happy! :m200::m200::m200:
    Nela
    *sigh* What am I doing now.. Very, very dangerous subject. :D The answer is: nothing really. I'm stressing like crazy because I can't figure it out. Feel like I made the wrong decisions. I just got a degree yes, and that study was interesting yeah, but I don't get that good old personal fulfillment out of it that I need. :m169: I always wanted to do art school. Illustration, graphic design, animation movies,.. I'm still thinking about just doing it now. Chasing the dream you know.

    (And you forgot the hat lol :))
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