Recent content by natsky

I tend not to open up very easily, so a lot of my friends in the past have been a lot more outgoing than me - it took their extroversion to really pursue a friendship with me. My best friend through high school and part of college though was an INTJ. I was definitely the more "emotional" one but...

You don't need your PhD to do therapy work, you really only need your Master's for a lot of that type of stuff. And as far as I understand, you could finish your degree in English Literature because it doesn't matter what your BA is in when you're trying to get into grad school. I'm sure your...

I can understand where you are coming from. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but I think sometimes people push you too far and you owe it to yourself not to put up with it. My former "best friend" was so similar to what you described... lack of empathy for others...

I'd rather people be genuine, too. Also, I am a giving person and like to help people out, but then I have many issues with friends. I feel like when I help people out with a favor or I'm a shoulder to cry on or I give good advice, that does make them like me, but only when they need me. It...

Indeed. soulseeker - exactly! I'm much better at losing friends than making them, apparently. But you're not trash, you're just different. Many people don't appreciate different

ummm.... +1,000 wish I hadn't read this thread

I have tried to get involved in making plans a few times, but then didn't hear back... though in general, you have to come to me. Perhaps that wasn't quite enough of an effort. I guess it's just that it was never a problem in the past, I used to be even more evasive and they'd always include...

+1 In my experience, those kinds of people love being in control and love that power

I was just wondering how you all deal with being the outsider all the time. In my situation, my usual group of friends has been leaving me out of everything for the past year. They know I don

I work in a cafe, and I used to be super friendly to customers (joking around, smiling a lot, etc), but unfortunately when it came to men (young and old), they constantly took it the wrong way... You'd do something innocent, and then they'd start flirting with you. So I had to learn to still be...

I've gone through a few best friends in the past, the most recent one I met in high school. She's an INTJ, so we were very similar in a lot of ways yet still different in others. It was pretty easy to become friends, because we were both laid back and introverted, so we liked hanging out but we...

That was amazing! :) It definitely sums up my feelings on the issue as well.

The simplest answer is that I live for myself. A few years ago, I was going through a period of deep depression. At the time, if someone had told me it would get better, I wouldn't have believed them. It was the empty pointlessness of it all that was dragging me down. But after fighting for...

+1. You stole the words right from my mouth! also, when all you really want is for everyone to just love each other, despite how cheesy it sounds. when you over analyze everything, and when you realize you're over analyzing, you start analyzing why you do that.