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Recent content by namiasdf

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    Construction and constitution of 1 on 1 friend relationships.

    I feel like I am two different people. The critical side that appears around those I trust and love. The very accommodating side that appears around those I don't know. It really should be the other way around. It makes me too trusting. Too loving. Now my heart is permanently scared. Ths life...
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    Friendships and ability to be yourself

    The people whom I choose to surround myself with all understand that I am an extremely naive, ignorant(socially) and loud person. When I'm with people I don't know, my introversion tends to shut me down. But otherwise, the people whom I genuinely trust and love to take care of me all know my...
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    Also true. Now that I've experienced love for the first time, there is a gap in my life, after losing her. So now I have more room to create an even stronger/better relationship because now I know what I'm looking for. The dating game seems so tiresome for me. I never dated in high school...
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    You are so totally correct. I loved her with all my heart, so it's going to be almost impossible to let go completely. But I have to, because life needs to move on. School, friends, family. If one day we meet again, and things are different, then who knows. Possibilitiesss.
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    I just talked to her for the last time. I told her that I will become a better person. See, there are two me's. The me that is the INFJ, and the me that is the social barrier I created to protect myself. When things started going south, I became the social me, and she started going on...
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    Well at the start of our love, she wanted it. We were going to budget, we were going to get a car, and were going to do everything together and start a life together. Financially I was the rock, and I was going to school for engineering, while she was stuck in her job. But yeah. I have more...
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    Are any of you guys subjected to a similar social situation?

    Haha small talk is terrifying though. I speak with efficiency and my small talk skills are almost none. Even when I'm drunk, I find it difficult, especially with girls. I like hide from them >.>
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    How often do you put yourself or own interests first

    Well, I try to not disappoint anyone around me. I find that it leads to a lot of conflict, but I hate letting people down. As for the interests part, it's iffy. I tend to exert my opinions on other people, not because I'm so needing of being right, but because I care to much to allow people to...
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    Man, I already love you guys lol. Thanks for this, it has given me a lot of insight. I understand that it was partially my fault, and she should not be blamed for taking advantage of how giving I was, but I really didn't know any better. Hopefully I can do better for the future, but I'm not...
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    Are any of you guys subjected to a similar social situation?

    Haha you basically just have said how I am always. I take leadership when leadership is needed, but I always will allow other people to take that role if they are willing to take it. And I can relate to the talking to the nervous people. I tend to pull those people off and talk to them 1v1. And...
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    My (soon to be ex) girlfriend is a whore

    Haha well I'm not bitter. But it has given me the resolve to move on. In real life, I am always a very literal and harsh person. My friends understand that I'm not trying to be mean, but it just comes out like that because I don't think before I speak. Which is why in social situations... I got...
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    My (soon to be ex) girlfriend is a whore

    It's why she didn't just cut out all the other guys who were competing. She surrounded herself with all these guys that wanted her. Thing was, this was my first love and she took advantage of it. That way she had a more consistent "feel good" type of deal. Fuck that's annoying as shit.
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    I never thought in my entire life, that I would be taken advantage of.

    My ex used me because she wanted company. It was my first love, so innocent, so giving. She took advantage of that. She only wanted me to make her feel good. It's why she didn't like it when I tried to exert in INFJ leadership stuff. Trying to improve her life. She just wanted me to make...
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    My (soon to be ex) girlfriend is a whore

    Hey dude, I sorta had the same thing. My first love, which I just broke up with a little less than a week ago is the same. She was hurt once in her life so bad, that she slept with people to feel wanted. She took advantage of my innocence and I fell in love with her. She just wanted the comfort...