Recent content by Introvacist

Kierkegaard once wrote something to the effect that if someone compliments you, you at least owe him or her a tip of your hat, but if someone criticizes you, you owe him or her nothing. I guess that's basically how I feel about someone finding me attractive or not... If someone, anyone...

I pretty much agree with the sentiments of the OP... and: I don't think that anyone should ever have to "settle" for someone else, and I think that this could be empowering for women. "Devaluing Fatherhood" or any such nonsense is just that, nonsense. This fear is probably just coming from a...

I'm sure most people have experienced the high of a new relationship, and the low of being alone. I'm also sure most have probably experienced these feelings many times, until they form a cyclical pattern. I would like to present a similar scenario for discussion. The Scenario: Let's say...

I'm generally well liked by others, even if I'm in an uncomfortable social situation that I'd rather avoid... If I have "nothing much to say" I listen. If I can pick up on anything in the conversation I know anything about, I bring it up, or I ask a question and let others guide the conversation...

I never really feel like I'm "trying too hard", because I tend not to act like someone I'm not just to try to fit in or seem comfortable with a situation... Even if it's true that everyone puts on a guise sometimes just to feel accepted, I avoid situations which make me too uncomfortable. While...

They aren't expressing a want to be with me. That's the point. We don't feel the same way about each other, hence her inability to give me the support I "need". I say need because, unlike before when I was perfectly ok without something like this in my life, I feel differently now. It's not...

Learning how to validate yourself is easier said than done, and believe me, I've never had a problem with it before. This has popped into my head before as well, "She does care but she's just a different person with different ways of expressing herself." The problem is that I feel like I'm...

I've recently come to the realization that I'm a very emotional person. I've found that I have a need for my feelings to be validated by others, so that I feel useful or needed or loved, and especially by someone that I'm particularly close with. My problem is that she (an ENTJ, I think,)...