Recent content by chemicalzombie

lol, I am chief among sinners. No stone-throwing for me

First of all let me get my biases out of the way; I am a Catholic Christian. Second of all, I just joined this forum so I may repeat points because I did no take the time to read all 13 pages. Yet I find the question your asking very interesting. Basically you're asking If you were God and...

This is good and helpful in terms of moving on. You're right I deserve reciprocation. I think part of the problem is that I sometimes lie to myself a feel that I messed up my chance at the One for me or some other BS that society tells you about love. The reality is he wasn't able to give me...

Not sure I understand the question. How did telling him serve you? Could you clarify what you mean? Yes, I agree that it is definitely a trade-off. I'm trying hard to figure out what I want. I know now that I want the same faith, and some sort of job. It doesn't have to be much, but some sort...

haha great choice in media. I did express how I wanted the relationship to progress. At the very beginning of our relationship, I said I wanted to meet in person in one year. He could not honor that and when that became clear I extended it. I even offered to visit him despite my parents...

No offense at all. I think I was afraid. I had a ton of people in my ear. My roommate, for example, kept saying how I couldn't trust anything he said. She kept asking how I knew he was studying or how did I know that he really graduated. My mom kept asking what does he do all day if he doesn't...

This is my favorite response so far. It seems level headed. So you would marry a jobless person? I think you can love someone and still realize there's no future potential. Yes I do want to build a future with my partner. INTJ and optimization is a thing. I think I can love my ex and realize...

When I say people take my side, most people point out that it was long distance, he didn't have a job, and it had been a year with no plans to visit. My friend who is a relationship coach and author says, "I am angry at him for dating you for a year long distance without arranging to spend time...

Of course, I did and I still feel guilty about it. If I didn't I won't be on here writing about it lol. Funny my ex said the same thing. I honestly don't know how to appear guilty. Yeah, I have left him alone; haven't talked to him in 3 months. I do appreciate you not pumping sunshine up my ass...

Okay I fully admit to having made a mistake by accepting his number. I guess I have such low self-esteem that I never imagined that a random guy would be interested in anything more than friendship. We had a lot of similar music tastes (something my boyfriend lacked) and I'm always looking for...

Hey everyone, INTJ female who dated an INFJ male. We broke up 6 months ago. I've been trying to move on but it has been difficult and I want to know if there is any hope for reconciliation. Full details We met through an online dating site and hit it off instantly. We talked for a month. We...