I get on well with two girls. One I don't know so well but have known for a while (Anne), the other I'm better friends with (Sarah). As friends, I like spending time with them naturally. I was intrested in getting to become better friends with both of them, and they have proven to be good potential friends.
Lately I've been talking alot more to Anne and getting to know her better. Our contact was always more of friendly teasing (non-sexual) since she was a friend of a close friend. After a while it became alot more obvious that she was interested and after a while confessed quite recently as I got to know her. Sarah on the other hand is someone I met at some university counselling training services, so I knew we were likely to have things in common straight away. There are times when I think that she likes me, and I wouldn't be too surprised if she thought the same of me. Both friendships came into my life around the same time, back in March. However I only started talking to Anne properly much later (September), while my friendship with Sarah developed straight from the beginning.
Anyhow after the confession and some stumbling with being uncertain about how I felt... I decided to see where things might go with Anne. But there's one major concern.
Did I choose to see where things might go with her because she was the first one that came along? Why didn't I consider Sarah? It's just the idea that had I gotten closer to Sarah first, and had one of us spoken up earlier about the minor romantic interest, would my choice have been different?
I mean I'm now sort of commited to Anne, even though we're not together. If I'm considering one person, I'm not going to be considering other people, in that sense I've decided to just keep my friendship with Sarah as just that.
But it worries me. That I'm might unconsciously being going with Anne for the wrong reason. That it's all fake. I suppose the only way I can be certain is to travel down this road, but I'd rather not hurt my important friends.
Lately I've been talking alot more to Anne and getting to know her better. Our contact was always more of friendly teasing (non-sexual) since she was a friend of a close friend. After a while it became alot more obvious that she was interested and after a while confessed quite recently as I got to know her. Sarah on the other hand is someone I met at some university counselling training services, so I knew we were likely to have things in common straight away. There are times when I think that she likes me, and I wouldn't be too surprised if she thought the same of me. Both friendships came into my life around the same time, back in March. However I only started talking to Anne properly much later (September), while my friendship with Sarah developed straight from the beginning.
Anyhow after the confession and some stumbling with being uncertain about how I felt... I decided to see where things might go with Anne. But there's one major concern.
Did I choose to see where things might go with her because she was the first one that came along? Why didn't I consider Sarah? It's just the idea that had I gotten closer to Sarah first, and had one of us spoken up earlier about the minor romantic interest, would my choice have been different?
I mean I'm now sort of commited to Anne, even though we're not together. If I'm considering one person, I'm not going to be considering other people, in that sense I've decided to just keep my friendship with Sarah as just that.
But it worries me. That I'm might unconsciously being going with Anne for the wrong reason. That it's all fake. I suppose the only way I can be certain is to travel down this road, but I'd rather not hurt my important friends.