Does anyone else ever feel as if as an INFJ, you're either underestimated because of the Fe preference, or seen as cold or prickly because of the Ni function? I feel both. I show people my feeling side and goof-ball nature and they cease taking me seriously. I show them I can spar in a debate or do not allow myself to be walked all over and they think I am cold. Why can't they see me as just me? I have all of these facets, they're all part of me. I feel like I have to be "on" especially in the company of NT's, but even if I'm the winning conversationalist they seem to gravitate towards the "mousey" type of person. What is the deal here?