Lifetrap Strength
Approval seeking very strong
Punitiveness very strong
Subjugation very strong
Emotional deprivation very strong
Vulnerablity very strong
Enmeshment very strong
Self-sacrifice strong
Abandonment strong
Insufficient self-control strong
Defectiveness strong
Failure strong
Unrelenting standards strong
Entitlement strong
Abuse strong
Emotional inhibation strong
Pessimism strong
Dependence medium
Sosial isolation medium
Approval seeking
Lifetrap strength: very strong
17% of people answering the test got the same result. 68% scored at least medium strength. Your answers:
For me, it is important that all people like me, including the ones I don't like. 6
When I make decisions, I have to consider how others accept my choices and how they react to my decisions. 6
I'm trying to belong and I adapt easily to what others expect from me. 6
It is important for you that all people like you, even strangers. You strive to please other people. Even if you would not like some person, you want that he or she likes you. You may make decisions thinking how your parents, your partner or your friends accept them. You may be afraid to do things on your own way, because you are afraid that might be accused or criticized. In a group you are trying hard to belong and you might transform yourself, depending on what you think others want from you. You hope that you would be liked, and therefore you aim to avoid conflict or hurting other people. You do not put forward your own opinions in fear of rejection, or you present strong opinions to test how others accept you. You may dress in a very conservative or acceptable way not to feel yourself different from others and to avoid becoming an outsider. You make a lot of effort in ensuring the people would appreciate you. You might acquire success, achievements, status, wealth or beauty, so that others could appreciate you. It is difficult for you to appreciate yourself for who you are, rather other people are a mirror of your dignity.
Punitiveness
Lifetrap strength: very strong
16% of people answering the test got the same result. 57% scored at least medium strength. Your answers:
I am harsh to myself if I make a mistake and I might punish myself for it. 5
I am angry at myself because I'm so weak, sentimental or needy. 6
I blame myself or call myself stupid, lazy or selfish. 6
You are very hard on yourself and punish yourself if you act incorrectly. You are often angry at yourself and criticize yourself for your mistakes. You might feel guilty or ashamed of how you've acted. You may be angry at yourself because you are sometimes weak, sentimental, or needy. If something bad happens to you, you might think that it was deserved, and you do not deserve sympathy or compassion. You may also be punitive to those around you. Your children may get an earful if things do not go as you please. You find it hard to forgive yourself and others and you do not accept excuses too easily.
Subjugation
Lifetrap strength: very strong
19% of people answering the test got the same result. 82% scored at least medium strength. Your answers:
I have trouble standing up for myself with people. 5
I am kind and flexible, and I avoid conflicts. 5
I please others to avoid unpleasant consequences. 6
You feel that you need to please your loved ones, friends, colleagues and even strangers. You do not want to be tricky, but nice and comfortable, so you easily agree to things that do not seem to be particularly important to you. You may find it difficult to stand up for yourself in both small and large matters. You let others control you more or less, because you want to avoid unpleasant consequences. You do not openly express your needs, because you do not see them important enough. You hide your anger to evade a conflict. However, the suppression of anger leads to accumulation of anger inside of you, which is usually dissolved either in a passive expression of anger as a small-scale revenge, gossip, slowing down, whining; or surprising aggressive temper tantrums. Anger can give rise to the desire to rebel and defy those who you consider as authorities (e.g. managers, spouse). You may attract people who are dominant and bossy, who will decide for you on how to act, behave or feel.
I'm such a mentally healthy human being!
