Hi,
I am a recently confirmed INFJ. For a while I identified as INTP until I read a site that made it clear that my NiFe dynamic was more pronounced.
In the past, I had serious social anxiety issues which I now realize were heightened in certain situations. I live in New York City, which is flooded with people, so as an introvert, I always felt a bit awkward in large gatherings. In college, this got really bad, because I'd be sitting in a lecture hall or classroom and feeling extremely isolated from those around me. I mistook this for NT isolation for a long time, so I was wondering if anyone had any insight on differentiating between the two.
I've read other threads on here and other forums that describe INFJ social anxiety as being 'flooded' with others' emotions, which created an Fe overload. I admit I never had this problem, and don't understand what it means. Basically, I would just observe peoples' behavior around me and think that they carried on conversations, made friends, and behaved far more 'human' than I did. Whereas I felt like an alien and sometimes was too shy to even speak up. Or I'd have this fear that I'd say something to someone next to me, and they wouldn't understand me, because it was like we were speaking two different languages.
Do you think I might be an NT, or just an INFJ who is judging myself too harshly? I did read that INFJs are extremely self-conscious of how they come off, so even when they are being perfectly normal in social situations, they are cognizant of every possible mistake, and fear not being as polite and 'proper' as they should be.
Can anyone relate?
I am a recently confirmed INFJ. For a while I identified as INTP until I read a site that made it clear that my NiFe dynamic was more pronounced.
In the past, I had serious social anxiety issues which I now realize were heightened in certain situations. I live in New York City, which is flooded with people, so as an introvert, I always felt a bit awkward in large gatherings. In college, this got really bad, because I'd be sitting in a lecture hall or classroom and feeling extremely isolated from those around me. I mistook this for NT isolation for a long time, so I was wondering if anyone had any insight on differentiating between the two.
I've read other threads on here and other forums that describe INFJ social anxiety as being 'flooded' with others' emotions, which created an Fe overload. I admit I never had this problem, and don't understand what it means. Basically, I would just observe peoples' behavior around me and think that they carried on conversations, made friends, and behaved far more 'human' than I did. Whereas I felt like an alien and sometimes was too shy to even speak up. Or I'd have this fear that I'd say something to someone next to me, and they wouldn't understand me, because it was like we were speaking two different languages.
Do you think I might be an NT, or just an INFJ who is judging myself too harshly? I did read that INFJs are extremely self-conscious of how they come off, so even when they are being perfectly normal in social situations, they are cognizant of every possible mistake, and fear not being as polite and 'proper' as they should be.
Can anyone relate?