The title is rhetorical Good day everyone, I am a Male INTP-T in my late 30's (1 year from the Four Zero). I'm posting here because I'm in a bit of a pickle so to speak and while I'm not necessarily looking for advice on what I should do (I know what I must do), I would still like to hear your opinions if you were in the situation as a Female INFJ-A. Forgive me if I came across a bit arrogant there but you'll understand why shortly. A bit of background. We met each other at work and we were instinctively drawn to each other. She said that she isn't used to making friends but she felt she had to with me and for me it was a bit easier because I noticed her long before she made the move. Since then we have very slowly built a comfortable yet fascinating friendship with each other. We've shared a lot about our lives (from childhood up to now) and I even have a pet name for her which she loves. I'd be remiss to say that it is not best thing that has ever happend. We are both quirky, weird and super playful with each other. There were a few hiccups along the way because of miscommunication but we both calmly spoke about it and the friendship has grown stronger because of it. We both enjoy chatting with each other because the conversations are a mixture of everything from intellectual to just plain silliness and what felt like a 30 minute conversation is actually a 2.5 hour conversation (I keep track ¯\_(ツ)_/¯). These conversations are usually before we both go to sleep. There are a lot more highlights I can add to describe the chemistry we have but for brevity sake I'll summarise that we tick a lot of the boxes that make an INTP/INFJ relationship work remarkably well together. It is difficult for either of us to go a few days without getting our "fix". Her own words were "It is never too soon". We have met a few times already and plan to do again soon (she is pushing for the next meet). Now while I have not actively been pursuing her, I have not been passive about it either. I do occasionally push the boundary and the response is not negative. Now comes that pickle. I am in a loveless failed marriage. We both avoid each other and only continue living together because of financial constraints and Covid. It is difficult for me to write this because I am fully cognizant of the situation I find myself in and the extreme moral implications that it presents. It keeps me awake that I'm hiding this from a girl that I care deeply for. The divorce process has already begun and I do not want to come across as a "have my cake and eat it too" guy but I'd be lying if I say I don't want a romantic relationship with her. Anyway. What would you do or think or even want if you were the girl in this situation?