Is my irratation in this situation irrational? (for an INFJ)

Today I caught up with an old friend, who has recently made contact with me after years apart and out of touch. Its the 2nd or 3rd time we have hung out together in the past 2-3 months, after no contact for years...Long story short, we used to spend most of our time together when younger being antisocial rebellious late-teens, getting drunk,partying,etc in a small group of people.

He has this overwhelming need to always be positive, to the extent that if i start moaning about something in life, even just to hear his take on it, he instantly changes topic. I don't moan and complain all the time, and i am far more positive generally than when younger, but I am cynical at times and like to see and discuss all sides of an issue in conversation with semi-close friends like him. His focus on being positive, even seems to cause him to repeat statements like "thats a nice"-random object- "isnt it?" more than once in a conversation, in order to change topic and fulfill his need to stay positive (seemingly at all costs). This is highly irritating to me for some reason, but I guess its no biggie.

So...today we talked mostly about various women we have dated/slept with/been friends with in our lives, while out of touch with each other. And we talked about mens fashion (unusually for me) , our families and old rivals/enemies, our future plans,etc. Nothing terribly serious, and it was a mostly pleasant period of time we spent together.

When I was at his place, he spent an aweful lot of time showing me his expensive new wardrobe of clothes, and trying to see what i thought about the items in it, and probing for my reaction to the bargains he had found for some of them. This also pissed me off, as it seems like some kind of competition is at the back of his mind. My wardrobe is lacking to say the least, and I have mentioned to him recently my intentions to upgrade a lot of it, to better fitting/looking combinations. In all fairness to him, he keeps offering to take me to some of his fav stores, and to help me choose what "looks good on me", in his mind. He also spent a lot of time showing me a whole load of stock that he had lying around, from when he used to sell clothing at a street stall he once ran in another city. I had already expressed interest in seeing the old stock, so he was simply fulfilling my request. He showed me a lot of digital photos of his stall, pointing out what he did and didnt like about the display style, pricing,etc...but he hardly asked me my opinion on any of it whatsoever, and just kept lecturing me on tons of details that i hardly need to know.

I felt drained of energy after this portion of our time together today. He also stated at least 3 times that I really should stay a bit longer where I am at the moment before travelling back home to the city I live in. (Im visiting my family at the moment). I had explained to him, that I dont like leaving my place for too long as security i'snt ideal at my property and I have friends back home, and things i need to do...Nothing was good enough and he seemed to keep making up a different reason every time he admonished me to stay for why I would be happier if i stayed here longer.

For some reason he would not tell me the 'real' reason that I should stay, and i just had this nagging feeling of him having some kind of hidden agenda. I realise thats just probably paranoia, but as I have explained above his reasoning was weird and kept changing. He also seemed to have quite a lot of txts to send particularly about the time he was nagging me to stay in town, and trying to convince me to go out with him to cafe's or shops. Im simply not interested in driving around randomly or hanging out at trendy places with him or anyone. To me, that is boring...I need a sense of purpose when i go out, and even then i'm not into trying to be seen, just for the sake of keeping up appearances.



So in short, I feel suspicious of his motives, pressured, and disrespected in the sense that I have my own reasons for wanting to do or not do things, that I should not need to justify even to someone I have known as long as him. I do not know his MBTI, but Im certain there is an E in there somewhere! (All I know is his starsign, he is a scorpio like me.) The reason I am bothering to rave on here about all this is that I would like to know if anyone else can see the deeper pattern here of what is to me, slightly offensive behaviour that has left me in a bad mood all afternoon. I was pleased when he finally gave up and left saying "well if you do want to go out and do something give me a call". Every time in the past when I have hinted that I need my space again, he acts offended and starts asking questions like "have i done something wrong?". Now I could of course just tell him where to go, but Im not like that with most people especially ones ive known a long time, and Im in 're-evealuation of old friendship mode' with this guy at the moment, which is why this mundane set of events and my internal reactions has me posting all about it on here looking for insight, and maybe a hidden gem or two that I cannot see.

So my question to you all is, am I being an oversensitive fool or can you identify with some of my irritations?

 

Yes, I find this person to be manipulative in a passive kind of way. When younger we were able to have somewhat intelligent and interesting conversation, but these days he seems afraid to venture into the world of feelings and thoughts to any great extent.

Keeping it short but sweet, is the best idea I guess. Thanks for replying.

Vindurnott and Shaigar - I highly doubt it, but I guess its possible. Maybe all that time spent showing me the collection in his closet was a glimpse of hidden desires. If so, I would take it as a compliment, and leave it there.