Well, I don't know if there is something wrong with me but I've been single for 14 years. I am 42 so it's unlikely I'm going to have children now. I'm O.K. with that, I don't think having children is the only thing that a woman can do with her life, Plus I've been so busy trying to sort myself out, everything I've done has really been an attempt to sort myself out. I am actually awed by people who can maintain long term relationships and are married, because somehow I just don't think that'll happen to me. It's weird because I want it but at the same time I don't. Every relationship I've been in I've somehow felt that I lost a part of who I was within it. Plus the only time I felt I was truly in love, my partner turned out to be a narcissist, and went from a kind of ideal, wonder boyfriend to a cruel manipulator. I was so confused when all of this ended, I was quite traumatised for a while and I haven't had a serious relationship since. I think it's a bit sad, but I don't know what I can do about it. I just keep trying to stride forwards in my life, and become a better person as much as I can. Still at my age, being single and with no children - I wonder about my situation and why I feel so different to others who seem to have these 'basic' things sorted out. As a woman in her 40's with no partner or children, society looks at you as 'low status' somehow. But then I've always felt different and a bit of an outsider. My remedy is to do things I enjoy, and make my life meaningful in that way, and to keep on trying to learn new things, also about myself.
Also I don't really feel that sorry for myself, just that these thoughts and feelings come up. I intend to have a great life, whatever the circumstances.