This staring problem only happens when I am engaging one on one with someone. I look into their eyes the entire time they are talking, even if they look away. I just can't stop looking at their eyes while they talk to me, but as soon as it is my turn to talk, I notice that I start averting my eyes, especially when I have to think really deeply. I never realized that I look so deeply and for such extended periods of time until I met certain people.
The first time was by a girl when we were both in 5th grade. She told me that I never blink when I talk to her, I just stare.
The second time I realized how long the length of my stares are is a few months ago when I met this guy in one of my college classes. When I would talk to him, it was ME that noticed that he stared just as hard at me as I did at him. He didn't even look away ever when he was speaking to me, like our eyes were completely locked onto the other. No blinking or anything either. It really unnerved me to no end. It felt like he was probing my being and I was probing his, which had me wondering if he was an INFJ as well. I've never felt something like that from another, though I am not sure if I've ever met another INFJ. I was also strongly attracted to him, which had me wondering if that was messing up by reading abilities as well.
And the main reason that I know I have some sort of fixation with peoples eyes is that I have almost ZERO ability to read peoples' lips. I just can't do it, and it frustrates everyone I meet to no end. It's like I focus so hard on the eye area that I forget everything else around. Sometimes I forget that I am even looking at a person, and only come back into reality when it is my turn in the conversation.
So I am wondering if this is an INFJ thing. I just see so much in someone's eyes, almost like their soul is revealed to through the eyes. I can distinctly recall meeting people and not wanting anything to do with them just because of something I saw in their eyes. Is it like that for you as well? What is your experience when you talk to someone? I've talked to some people about the whole "soul is in the eyes" thing, but I could feel that they didn't really understand my meaning.
The first time was by a girl when we were both in 5th grade. She told me that I never blink when I talk to her, I just stare.
The second time I realized how long the length of my stares are is a few months ago when I met this guy in one of my college classes. When I would talk to him, it was ME that noticed that he stared just as hard at me as I did at him. He didn't even look away ever when he was speaking to me, like our eyes were completely locked onto the other. No blinking or anything either. It really unnerved me to no end. It felt like he was probing my being and I was probing his, which had me wondering if he was an INFJ as well. I've never felt something like that from another, though I am not sure if I've ever met another INFJ. I was also strongly attracted to him, which had me wondering if that was messing up by reading abilities as well.
And the main reason that I know I have some sort of fixation with peoples eyes is that I have almost ZERO ability to read peoples' lips. I just can't do it, and it frustrates everyone I meet to no end. It's like I focus so hard on the eye area that I forget everything else around. Sometimes I forget that I am even looking at a person, and only come back into reality when it is my turn in the conversation.
So I am wondering if this is an INFJ thing. I just see so much in someone's eyes, almost like their soul is revealed to through the eyes. I can distinctly recall meeting people and not wanting anything to do with them just because of something I saw in their eyes. Is it like that for you as well? What is your experience when you talk to someone? I've talked to some people about the whole "soul is in the eyes" thing, but I could feel that they didn't really understand my meaning.