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How to date an INFP

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So, if you want to date an INFP, here's what you need to know. Welcome all INFPs and anyone else with insight on dating this type.

Warning: Each person is unique so not everyone will fit or have the same qualities. Whoever you date, handle with care. :)


http://www.lovetype.com/infptips.html
If You Are the INFP: Idealistic Philosopher


"Love is the perfect place: quiet, peaceful, and kind."

You Are Someone Who:

Enjoys the arts, philosophy, and psychology.
Needs to have a crusade (or mission) in life.
Is sensitive.
Is idealistic.
Is generally easy-going until your values are violated.
Tends to have high expectations regarding your loved one.

If You Are Female, Your Best Matches Are:
INFPs: Idealistic Philosophers
ENJFs: Growth Teachers
ENFPs: Social Philosophers
INFJs: Mystic Writers

If You are Male, Your Best Matches Are:
INFJs

If You Want to Win the Heart of Your Ideal Mate, Do the Following:
For INFPs:
*Keep the conversation warm, personal, and conflict-free.
*Be wary of violating their deeply held values.
*Engage them in conversation and take them on dates that revolve around the arts, relationships, psychology, and finding the meaning of life.
*Be considerate of their need to spend quiet, intimate time with you.​
For ENFJs:
*Avoid making them jealous; when you're with them (especially in the beginning of the relationship) don't be overly attentive of other attractive people.
*Provide plenty of verbal affection.
*Make sure you are on time for your dates.
*Show respect and support for their strongly held opinions, beliefs,and preferences.​
For ENFPs:
*Join them on fun, romantic dates such as salsa dancing or beach rendezvous with poetry and wine.
*Stimulate their playful imagination: leave mysterious notes on their doorstep, dress up like historical characters, or ask them thought-provoking questions such as "what would we do if we were stranded on a desert island?"
*Invite others to join the fun--ENFPs love to be around other people and will enjoy your company even more when you create a lively social environment.
*Keep up with their agile conversation as they enthusiastically switch from one intriguing topic to another.​
For INFJs:
*Cater to your date's fascination with metaphysical, psychological, or philosophical topics.
*Respect their need for solitude and quiet dates at home or in a private setting.
*Share activities with them that revolve around their love of reading and writing (eg. book signings and poetry readings).
*Provide structure on your dates--ie. let them know in advance where you are going, what you will be doing, how long it will take, and so forth.​
 
From my limited experience, here is my less than two cents worth:
*They are the most emotionally fragile of all the types, so only date them if you know how to be KIND.
*Don't take them crowded places. Find places where you can be alone.
*Listen to them. They are not concerned with you agreeing so much as with you simply understanding them.
*Do not interpet silence as "the date not going well." Do not interpret silence as agreement.
*Tweak their sense of Romance with meaningful symbols.
 
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From my limited experience, here is my less than two cents worth:
*They are the most emotionally fragile of all the types, so only date them if you know how to be KIND.
*Don't take them crowded places. Find places where you can be alone.
*Listen to them. They are not concerned with you agreeing so much as with you simply understanding them.
*Do not interpet silence as "the date not going well." Do not interpret silence as agreement.
*Tweak their sense of Romance with meaningful symbols.

I agree with most of this. Although INFPs are seen as fragile, they're not as fragile as many people think. They're stronger than most in some areas but it's a subtle strength rarely acknowledged or appreciated. It's rarely seen unless you know the person well. Sometimes, INFPs can allow their sensitivity to get the best of them, but sometimes people are just unnecessarily hard and harsh; and sometimes spend too much time trying to crush the INFP idealism instead of appreciating their unique way of looking at things.