Hi Everyone,
I joined this forum to hear your thoughts about a personal situation with an INFJ girl I went through (I am INTP/ENTP depends on the test and context.... this is before the two of us knew our types, I wasn't aware of MBTI at the time)
- I suddenly realized I like this girl (first girl I ever liked this way) who I worked with, there was no lead up, it was just a sudden epiphany that caught me by surprise
- I work with her directly on a number of things (student life) so I hope you understand how hard this was for me
- I kept it hidden for 3-4 months, she had no idea and I made sure that it was hidden until I figured out what to do
- My intuition said don’t ask her out, but you need to tell her (something didn’t feel right when I wanted to ask her our or just not tell her at all)
- I took her out on a evening walk and simply explained what happened and said “I realized I liked you more than a friend”….we had a fantastic conversation where I was really honest with her, as politely as I can and explained what I felt and went through, **probably one of the best hours I had with a person**!
- I told this girl that if she ever wanted to talk to me about this situation, she can talk to me whenever she wants to but I am not going to bother her (I hate mind games and pestering in general) and that I am just glad she knows coming from me and me only
- She opened up to why doesn’t date at this point in her life and I will hold this information as it is her personal choices (only a handful of people know)
- I also reassured her that I’ll still be her friend, you don’t need to worry about me turning into an @$$ lol, in fact it wasn’t even awkward when I told her it was perfectly natural and I never felt more comfortable and confident in my life actually!
- We are still good friends, hang out once in a while (both of us are incredibly busy) and we help each other for all sorts of things, we have our funny quirks and honestly never a dull moment between us
I will be honest sometimes the feelings creep back but goes away, I greatly respect and admire her, and she also feels the same way towards me. SOMETIMES I get the sense she is a little uncomfortable around me but she hasn’t been forward with it so maybe it is just me overthinking. We never had a single fight yet and we both support each other through times.
I just wanted to hear your thoughts on this, it is just funny that we found out our types afterwards and apparently, our types go through this a lot haha.
What do you think? Is this a typical INFJ-ENTP/INTP Interaction? I just want to hear anyone’s thoughts on this. Be as honest as you like or even offer tips regarding how I should continue approaching it. Thanks Everyone!
I joined this forum to hear your thoughts about a personal situation with an INFJ girl I went through (I am INTP/ENTP depends on the test and context.... this is before the two of us knew our types, I wasn't aware of MBTI at the time)
- I suddenly realized I like this girl (first girl I ever liked this way) who I worked with, there was no lead up, it was just a sudden epiphany that caught me by surprise
- I work with her directly on a number of things (student life) so I hope you understand how hard this was for me
- I kept it hidden for 3-4 months, she had no idea and I made sure that it was hidden until I figured out what to do
- My intuition said don’t ask her out, but you need to tell her (something didn’t feel right when I wanted to ask her our or just not tell her at all)
- I took her out on a evening walk and simply explained what happened and said “I realized I liked you more than a friend”….we had a fantastic conversation where I was really honest with her, as politely as I can and explained what I felt and went through, **probably one of the best hours I had with a person**!
- I told this girl that if she ever wanted to talk to me about this situation, she can talk to me whenever she wants to but I am not going to bother her (I hate mind games and pestering in general) and that I am just glad she knows coming from me and me only
- She opened up to why doesn’t date at this point in her life and I will hold this information as it is her personal choices (only a handful of people know)
- I also reassured her that I’ll still be her friend, you don’t need to worry about me turning into an @$$ lol, in fact it wasn’t even awkward when I told her it was perfectly natural and I never felt more comfortable and confident in my life actually!
- We are still good friends, hang out once in a while (both of us are incredibly busy) and we help each other for all sorts of things, we have our funny quirks and honestly never a dull moment between us
I will be honest sometimes the feelings creep back but goes away, I greatly respect and admire her, and she also feels the same way towards me. SOMETIMES I get the sense she is a little uncomfortable around me but she hasn’t been forward with it so maybe it is just me overthinking. We never had a single fight yet and we both support each other through times.
I just wanted to hear your thoughts on this, it is just funny that we found out our types afterwards and apparently, our types go through this a lot haha.
What do you think? Is this a typical INFJ-ENTP/INTP Interaction? I just want to hear anyone’s thoughts on this. Be as honest as you like or even offer tips regarding how I should continue approaching it. Thanks Everyone!