Do you value emotional depth or range in a partner?
I value both, but not when expression thereof reflects dysfunction, because that usually means one or both will be hurt, misunderstood, etc. All emotions are valid and are accepted. When emotions are not accepted in awareness they tend to be denied, sublimated, projected, and/or drive behavior outside of awareness, and that’s when they can become hurtful to any and all involved.
Is having emotional depth or range important to you in your own life?
Yes, but I suppose that is because it is what I know. I’m dramatic, mercurial, and sensitive, after all!
Do you feel your emotional depth or range has shortened, lengthened, or deepened as you get older?
Expanded in all ways due to coming to know myself, accept myself, love myself, and trust myself.
Do you notice a significant change or effect in emotional depth or range in yourself or partner making a huge difference in how your relationship pans out?
Absolutely. I need someone who is emotionally expressive in a way that reflects depth and a broad range of emotions, as well as a way that reflects emotional well-being.
That said, some people need less, or need none of certain kinds of expression. For example, I am easily moved to tears and/or to cry by any number of things, both joyous and sad, and oftentimes for no reason other than my being overwhelmed by beauty. In the culture I live in, some see that as indicative of weakness, and/or a lack of qualities associated with being a “man,” and so on. I’m not likely to be a good long-term partner for them.
I find emotional expression, and the nature of that expression, very important in how it shapes and colors all forms of exchange, from the most casual, to the highly intimate.
Cheers,
Ian