Dealing with Empathy

Disconnecting is a common defense mechanism for a lot of us. You have to find people you feel comfortable connecting with.

 

Going with entyqua's opinion.

Addition: Don't expect too much from people. This could be painful for you, i think.

 

You cant wait for the negative feelings to take over, you have to be open to the good things too. I cut myself off from myself for quite a long time too. I was no better for it. If you cant connect with people, and here is a good place to start connecting by the way, connect with stories.

 

Force crushes everything, i agree.

 

ohh i am sorry for it. Did you see any therapist or any psych? I can understand how much awful it is for you.

I hope you are feeling better now. If you need my help, i am here to listen you as your friend.

 

I can relate, I dont want this to turn into an an abuse support thread, because I dont want to derail it for you, but I was sexually abused from the time I was twelve to the time I was 17 by my father. At 17 I also lost my fiance, moved out, and closed off. While I was in that state, I let myself be attached to another man, who raped me constantly...I didnt see it as rape at the time, because we were dating, but later realized what really happened.

For two years i was no one, nothing...a flesh bag...I was promiscuous, dangerous, and should have died...really. If I hadnt opened myself up, I wouldn't have met my husband, and had the only child I would ever have in this life...

If you never open yourself back up to trust, you will never realize what you are capable of.

 

I refuse to talk to a therapist about this...they will judge you. I hate it.

I can tell you that I FULLY understand...and i will talk with you as long as you need it.

 

There is private messaging, Click on a user name above the avatar the option is there. There is a chat room, and there is an offsite chatroom.

 

.....I feel bad myself.

People have a lot of bad, worse, unimaginable experiences here...

....I feel terribly bad and immature and weak for my own actions xO They all seems so..immature. So.... selfish.

I used to detach before, but it's only due to some discomfort unworthy compared to what Entyqua, zp_91291, and possibly many others here (I hope I WAS COMPLETELY WRONG); it's like, wha? "OMG I sense hostility does s/he hate me?"

*buries self*

In the end.. Yes, I experienced empathy and sensing other people's feelings, or reading the atmosphere, and it usually affects me according to what emotions were being felt. If it's a good emotion such as joy and happiness, similar reactions will follow, and vice versa. Detachment usually comes when in one or other ways it's becoming unbearable.

 

Sorry to heard this happened. Best of luck.

 

Sorry to hear this happened. I hope you find a good counselor who is trustworthy. I know the feeling of people treating feelings as misunderstandings. It's hard. I was a sensitive person much of my life, quite naive, and too trusting. I've experienced some emotional abuse but problem is emotional abuse is easily dismissed because there is usually nothing physical to connect it with unless physical abuse accompanies it. So, most who are emotionally abused or manipulated are made to feel as if it's not real or it's their fault, they're "seeing things" so to speak. So, you're not alone. : )