Hi All,
I hope you can help me here. I am an INFJ with order scores that give a little F over T so I can somewhat identify with INTJ.
I'm 48 and spent 18+ years in a family HOA management business and left it in May of 2014 because it was so negative and intolerable to work in. It was great for a short stint when I was in charge of creative development of the business in the early 2000s but mush of that stopped in 2008 and not investment when back into the business so essentially spent most of time for the last 6 years putting out fires and patching unhappy clients. I also had another family member who played sabotage games and was continually trying to undermine ever person she saw as a threat. I even found out she was cooking the books and managed to shift about $15K into her own pocket. I pointed this out to the owner (another family member) and was told to be quiet, let it go and just do my job. It because just depressing even to go to work the say the least. So planned with my wife, played it conservatively paid off my house, saved almost a years of salary and quit.
I've since worked over the last 1 + year (about 9 months) doing contract work for a friend in IT Support (not doing it currently) and considered going into this field but I feel the expertise level I need to obtain is moving target and 48 I'm not sure I ever have the specialized expertise to make it worth while perusing it. So I thinking of stopping chasing this... My wife who is a nurse is encouraging me to pursue a PTA or COTA career but the waiting time to get into Community College programs is 2+ years plus @ years to finish the program. Private Medical Institutes I can get in earlier but they are charging outrageous amount of money for tuition (currently Triple of CC) and I am really balking at paying it. Plus I am not sure I am passionate about it. Wife is almost to the point of bullying to go for it. Pathetic huh....? Plus I feel and AA degree would be a step back form my current B.A.
I've thought about trying to get into perusing an MA in Counseling but honestly I am so beat down right now I just would like to try to do something that doesn't require two years+ of education to make a living. Wife is adamant that I wont be able to work as a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC).
I've gotten to the point of Analysis Paralysis of over thinking this. Is there any INFJ here who have started their own businesses or found work they loved that had some autonomy and creativity associated with it? I'm not opposed to starting a business but I'm definitely someone who needs to recharge and I don't want to be "working it" around the clock.
Right now I'm pretty isolated and I do like my quiet time or reflective time being in total isolation is not good for me. I need something with about a 60/40 split Autonomous/Interaction with people. Anyway I'm just not sure where to go at this point. I'm now 48 and feel like my career was stolen from me (I hated it anyway) and my opportunities and time are slipping through my fingers.
I could use some help sorting this out or finding direction for the next half of my life.
Rich
I hope you can help me here. I am an INFJ with order scores that give a little F over T so I can somewhat identify with INTJ.
I'm 48 and spent 18+ years in a family HOA management business and left it in May of 2014 because it was so negative and intolerable to work in. It was great for a short stint when I was in charge of creative development of the business in the early 2000s but mush of that stopped in 2008 and not investment when back into the business so essentially spent most of time for the last 6 years putting out fires and patching unhappy clients. I also had another family member who played sabotage games and was continually trying to undermine ever person she saw as a threat. I even found out she was cooking the books and managed to shift about $15K into her own pocket. I pointed this out to the owner (another family member) and was told to be quiet, let it go and just do my job. It because just depressing even to go to work the say the least. So planned with my wife, played it conservatively paid off my house, saved almost a years of salary and quit.
I've since worked over the last 1 + year (about 9 months) doing contract work for a friend in IT Support (not doing it currently) and considered going into this field but I feel the expertise level I need to obtain is moving target and 48 I'm not sure I ever have the specialized expertise to make it worth while perusing it. So I thinking of stopping chasing this... My wife who is a nurse is encouraging me to pursue a PTA or COTA career but the waiting time to get into Community College programs is 2+ years plus @ years to finish the program. Private Medical Institutes I can get in earlier but they are charging outrageous amount of money for tuition (currently Triple of CC) and I am really balking at paying it. Plus I am not sure I am passionate about it. Wife is almost to the point of bullying to go for it. Pathetic huh....? Plus I feel and AA degree would be a step back form my current B.A.
I've thought about trying to get into perusing an MA in Counseling but honestly I am so beat down right now I just would like to try to do something that doesn't require two years+ of education to make a living. Wife is adamant that I wont be able to work as a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC).
I've gotten to the point of Analysis Paralysis of over thinking this. Is there any INFJ here who have started their own businesses or found work they loved that had some autonomy and creativity associated with it? I'm not opposed to starting a business but I'm definitely someone who needs to recharge and I don't want to be "working it" around the clock.
Right now I'm pretty isolated and I do like my quiet time or reflective time being in total isolation is not good for me. I need something with about a 60/40 split Autonomous/Interaction with people. Anyway I'm just not sure where to go at this point. I'm now 48 and feel like my career was stolen from me (I hated it anyway) and my opportunities and time are slipping through my fingers.
I could use some help sorting this out or finding direction for the next half of my life.
Rich
